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Relationship Epidemic: Shutting Out Body Wisdom
Posted By Gay and Katie Hendricks On December 15, 2010 @ 1:26 pm In Personal Growth, Relationships | No Comments
Is alexithymia wreaking havoc in your close relationships ? Most of us struggle at one time or another with an inability to feel what’s going on inside us at the level of emotion and energy flow . The technical term for this problem is “alexithymia.” If you look it up in a medical dictionary, you’ll find some very interesting clues as to why relationship conflicts recycle without resolution. The word alexithymia comes from ancient Greek and literally means “without words for feelings.” If you’re alexithymic, you suffer from three main traits:
As a couple, we’ve learned a lot about alexithymia over the past several decades, first in the laboratory of our own relationship and later in working with others. We entered our own relationship 30 years ago with full-blown symptoms of alexithymia. Slowly, and with a lot of careful attention, we gradually became skilled at identifying our feelings , expressing them clearly to each other and listening to each other on the emotional level.
As we gained those skills, we began teaching them to others. Now, based on sessions with more than 4,000 couples — as well as a million-and-a-half frequent flyer miles teaching seminars around the world — we can tell you that alexithymia is not only a hindrance to relationship intimacy, but a rampant, out-of-control epidemic. The epidemic of alexithymia has spread because of two factors:
Alexithymia is a very costly epidemic, but its true cost cannot be tallied because of its pervasiveness. In close relationships, alexithymia keeps you from knowing who you really are, and it keeps you from really knowing your partner. That’s only one of the costs, though. It’s the underlying issue in many problem areas, including those in politics  and business. Multiply the problem times the six billion of us who live here, and you have a planet full of people who are not allowing themselves to resonate in harmony with each other — purely because they’ve forgotten how to resonate with themselves.
Curing alexithymia begins with how we relate to the energy centers  of our bodies. Specifically, it relates to the flow of awareness you feel in your own energy centers and the flow of energy between you and your partner. Alexithymia keeps you from being sensitive to breaks in the flow of energy. If you can’t feel disturbances in the flow, you can’t do anything to restore the easeful feeling of flow. The energy centers are designed to resonate in tune with your own emotional vibrations and the vibrations of people you’re in a relationship with.
In other words, if you stand next to your partner, the energy centers of both you and your partner are designed to resonate with each other as well as within yourselves as individuals. For this reason, relationship problems cannot be solved purely on the mental or even emotional levels. A new awareness  is required, one that can take you first into a new dimension of energy flow, then beyond energy to a direct experience of the spacious matrix that holds mind, body and emotion. The cure for alexithymia is body wisdom, the art of tuning in to your authentic feelings and the flow of energy  within you. We will share more on this subject in part two.
Kathlyn and Gay Hendricks are the authors of “Conscious Loving” and the developers of a new post-Einsteinian approach to relationship enhancement, “The Relationship Catalyst.” Learn more at www.relationshipcatalyst.tv .
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 close relationships: http://life.gaiam.com/category/personal-growth/relationships
 emotion and energy flow: http://life.gaiam.com/article/kabbalah-secrets-more-fulfilling-relationship
 identifying our feelings: http://life.gaiam.com/article/judith-orloff-how-identify-your-emotional-type-transform-negative-emotions
 express those feelings effectively: http://life.gaiam.com/article/avoid-traps-unconscious-loving
 locked in as a habit and eventually even a lifestyle: http://life.gaiam.com/article/how-handle-soft-addiction
 politics: http://blog.gaiam.com../../../../../blog/creating-conscious-relationships-at-home-and-out-in-the-world/
 energy centers: http://life.gaiam.com/article/chakras-get-know-your-7-energy-centers
 new awareness: http://www.gaiam.com/product/awakening+the+now+dvd.do?SID=WG107SPRTAPEMACS&extcmp=life_prod
 flow of energy: http://www.gaiam.com/product/introduction+to+energy+medicine+dvd.dohttp://www.gaiam.com/product/introduction+to+energy+medicine+dvd.do
 www.relationshipcatalyst.tv: http://www.relationshipcatalyst.tv/
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