"Nothing's turned out the way it's supposed to." (Gilly) "How you mean supposed to? Life ain't supposed to be nothing, 'cept maybe tough... All that stuff about happy endings is lies. The only ending in this world is death. Now that might or might not be happy, but either way, you ain't ready to die... Sometimes in this world things come easy, and you tend to lean back an say, 'Well, finally, happy ending. This is the way things is supposed to be.' Like life owed you good things...And there is lots of good things, baby... But you just fool yourself if you expect good things all the time. They ain't what's regular - don't nobody owe 'em to you. " (Trotter) "If life is so bad, how come you're so happy?" (Gilly) "Did I say bad? I said it was tough. Nothing to make you happy like doing good on a tough job, now is there?" (Trotter)
Chapter One of My Life. I walk down the street. There's a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in. I am lost. I am helpless. It isn't my fault. It still takes forever to find a way out.
Chapter Two. I walk down the same street. There's a deep hole in the sidewalk. I pretend I don't see it. I fall in again. I can't believe I'm in the same place! But it isn't my fault. And it still takes a long time to get out.
Chapter Three. I walk down the same street. There's a deep hole in the sidewalk. I see it there. I still fall in. It's a habit! My eyes are open. I know where I am. It is my fault. I get out immediately.
Chapter Four. I walk down the same street. There's a deep hole in the sidewalk. I walk around it.
Every act of conscious learning requires the willingness to suffer an injury to one's self-esteem. That is why young children, before they are aware of their own self-importance, learn so easily; and why older persons, especially if vain or important, cannot learn at all.
The most important experiences we can have are those that take us to the very limit. That is the only way we learn, because it requires all our courage.