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How Important Is Chemistry in Love?
Posted By Arielle Ford On January 19, 2012 @ 8:54 am In Personal Growth, Relationships | No Comments
I am 46 years old and unmarried. Last summer, I connected with someone online  and we both felt we were soulmates , brought together by divine intervention. Two months later he decided to fly 5,000 miles to come meet me, with an understanding that the meeting was just to see each other at least once and get comfortable.
Upon our meeting, the guy felt there was no chemistry. Because we had so much in common, I was willing to give it a try, but he wasn’t, although he did want to keep in touch and remain friends, which I said no to.
Arielle and Brian, why does this happen? Is it right to give up so much in common for chemistry? Was this guy not really my soulmate? I am confused.
Thank you so much.
Committing to and sharing your life with a soulmate is a desire worth committing time and energy to . We want to strongly encourage you to not give up just because this one didn’t work out.
While it may seem like having many things “in common” with someone sounds like the formula for a fantastic relationship, it’s just part of the equation. We aren’t meant to spend our lives with someone who is simply the opposite-sex version of ourselves. Differences and diversity add spice and magic to a long-term relationship .
All great relationships need a combination of chemistry, compatibility, connection, communication and a shared vision for the future. We understand your disappointment that this didn’t work out, but please know that while you felt a possible “soulmate connection,” without chemistry you would have been cheating yourself of experiencing the breadth and depth of Big Love .
Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,
Arielle and Brian
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 connected with someone online: http://life.gaiam.com/article/internet-dating-20-target-your-search-make-match
 soulmates: http://life.gaiam.com/article/6-steps-finding-your-soulmate
 a desire worth committing time and energy to: http://blog.gaiam.com/blog/i-am-ready-for-my-soulmate-so-whats-the-next-step/
 long-term relationship: http://www.gaiamtv.com/video/be-loved-who-you-really-are-dr-judith-sherven-dr-james-sniechowski?chan=GaiamLife&utm_source=GaiamLife&utm_medium=Web&utm_campaign=10day
 breadth and depth of Big Love: http://life.gaiam.com/article/5-keys-extraordinary-love
 soulmatesecret.com: http://www.soulmatesecret.com/
 soulmatekit.com: http://www.soulmatekit.com/
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