We’re excited to share with you our latest discoveries about conscious loving and living. The relationship transformation concepts and tools we teach as a team have given us a wealth of joy, abundance and learning in our married life together — and as a team, we’ve shared those ideas with 30,000 individuals and 3,000 couples we’ve taught and counseled. We look forward to sharing these ideas with you here in the Gaiam Stream of Consciousness Blog.
As we celebrate our 28th anniversary of living and working together, we remain just as passionate about creating conscious relationships as the day we first made a commitment to each other. That’s one of the magnificent aspects of relationships and life: If you embody several key intentions and practice several key skills, you can keep feeling more alive and in love year after year.
The intentions of conscious loving are radically different from what many people choose as their intentions for a relationship. One of our favorite quotes of the year comes from Elizabeth Gilbert’s book EAT, PRAY, LOVE. She describes in wonderfully funny detail the ordeals of her love affair with a man name David. At the height of their struggles, he comes up with a solution to their relationship problems. Unfortunately, it’s a solution that could serve as a recipe for a lifetime of misery.
He says: What if we just acknowledged that we have a bad relationship, and we stuck it out, anyway? What if we admitted that we make each other nuts, we fight constantly and hardly ever have sex, but we can’t live without each other, so we deal with it? And then we could spend our lives together — in misery, but happy to not be apart.”
How about that for an innovative set of wedding vows? Picture them dressed in their wedding finery, standing with the minister in front of the congregation.
Do you, Elizabeth and David, acknowledge that you have a bad relationship?
Do you admit that you fight constantly, hardly ever have sex and drive each other nuts?
And do you agree to stick it out anyway and spend your lives together in misery but at least happy that you aren’t apart?
Conscious loving is founded on a set of principles and practices completely opposite from those. In this blog, we’ll explore those principles and practices, showing you how to generate a lifetime of love and creativity for yourself and those close to you.