Using the Law of Attraction to Manifest Soulful Love

Arielle Ford by Arielle Ford | July 14th, 2010 | 13 Comments
topic: Personal Growth

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Dear Arielle and Brian,

I share an amazingly deep connection with someone and yet I know deep down he is not the right one for me. How do I reconcile that in my mind and heart and move on, especially when I’ve been searching for a long time?


Dear Mira,

It may be time to move this man into the “friend” category if he is not your ideal life partner. We believe a soulmate is someone with whom you share a deep and profound connection and feel you can completely be yourself. A soulmate is someone you love unconditionally, who loves you unconditionally, and when you look into their eyes, you have the experience of being at “home.” There is the possibility for many soulmates in a lifetime, and chances are you ALREADY have several in your life. If you look at my definition of a soulmate, then you will see that you may have a best friend, co-worker or family member who is your soulmate. And it’s possible this man “who is not the right one” is a friend soulmate but not your future husband. We suggest that when you recognize the love you already have around you, when you put your attention on being grateful for the love that is already in your life (through friends, family and co-workers), you immediately begin to attract MORE love into your life.

Find ways to express more love to everyone in your life. The universe is always mirroring back to us our beliefs about ourselves and the world. If we believe the world is a loving and friendly place, then most of the time that will be our experience. But, if we believe the world is a chaotic, stressful and fearful place, then that becomes our reality.

The basic Law of Attraction states that you will attract to you those things that match your state of belief. Believing that your soulmate is out there is critical to the preparation of manifestation. If you learn to believe that the ONE is not only out there but is ALSO LOOKING FOR YOU, then true love can be yours.

Many blessings,

Arielle & Brian

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  1. wow.. i amaze with the words that used in this post

    tee are | July 15th, 2010 | Comment Permalink
  2. The universe is always mirroring back to us our beliefs about ourselves and the world. If we believe the world is a loving and friendly place, then most of the time that will be our experience.

  3. Hi Mira, oh yes… I know that place. Intimately. It’s not an easy one.

    One thing is not clear to me. You say ‘yet I know deep down…’ but I’m unsure if this means that s/he has feelings which you are unable to return, or if you have feelings s/he is unable to return – or if it’s another situation entirely. It’s not necessary that we know this online, of course. :-)

    In any case, do you believe in past lives? What I’ve found is that when we have a deep connection with someone that also feels like disappointment or longing, our souls are revealing something inside us that’s ready to be healed and understood. Do you know the past life connection that you might have shared?

    Past life regression is an idea you may wish to explore for this situation. When the past life connection is understood, it then becomes much easier to grow and move through it.

    Whether or not you believe in reincarnation, if you sincerely want a soulmate, the best piece of advice I can give (to complement Arielle’s thoughtful answer) is this: take an active role in getting to know your soul. Do this in whatever way works best for you. Learn why you’re here. Discover your purpose, and your own soul’s path, independent of a soulmate in your life.

    Not only will you grow personally, but you’ll raise your own vibration (and – as like attracts like) you’ll be more likely to attract and be receptive to someone luvly who could become your soulmate and partner.

    And! The bonus is while you’re waiting, everything you do will be fulfilling and meaningful for you. Which can only be a good thing. :-)

    Hope this helps! Warm wishes and best of luck to you.

    Karen M. Black | July 23rd, 2010 | Comment Permalink
  4. Hey Mira – I just made the clear decision to create a soulmate now.

    My former husband turned out to be a soul friend and after doing forgiveness work, he is now a a more spiritual and wonderful friend than before. In a strange way I feel more “in love” with him now without a desire to have him in my everyday life. Interesting experience.

    After reading what you wrote above;
    “If you learn to believe that the ONE is not only out there but is ALSO LOOKING FOR YOU, then true love can be yours”.
    With that, I checked my beliefs and realized my limiting beliefs are “he’s going to be hard to find.” That’s one of those ideas that wants to “play it safe” by remaining single.
    I can release these and know he is looking for me too! Thanks so much for helping me grow.

    Jody | July 29th, 2010 | Comment Permalink
  5. Thanks for sharing this!

    I have been quite successful in manifesting small amounts of money and certain events but I have never wanted them as I am not a materialistic guy. What I wanted was a partner who would laugh and smile with me…….. and I always had trouble manifesting relationships properly.

    This article has helped me to gain some new insights on how I should go about doing it, so I really thank you deep down from the bottom of my heart for it!


    manifesting abundance | November 19th, 2010 | Comment Permalink
  6. I really do not like the phrase soul mate because, to me, it conjures up some idea that people who are in a relationship will be gazing into each others eyes just sighing with how perfect their partner is. (I am not saying that this is the correct definition of soul mate — it is just what I think about when I hear the phrase.)

    I do, however, believe it is possible to have a wonderful, healthy, loving relationship with a partner. I have been married for 30 years. When I first met my husband, I never felt he was my soul mate. He was, and still is, a kind, caring, intelligent, overall good man, who shares the same values that I do.

    Successful relationships take a good deal of hard work. I feel it is important to treat each other with respect, kindness, consideration , love, and also to want to spend time together. I think if you have all of these qualities, you can have a wonderful and satisfying relationship, even if you did not start out as soul mates. I also think that this type of relationship will last for a long time.

    RevDella | December 23rd, 2010 | Comment Permalink
  7. great post I really appreciate the info!

    Beulah Cirigliano | March 3rd, 2011 | Comment Permalink
  8. Great post! This make a lot more sense than some of the other forums out there. The LOA works in harmony with the paradigms, which are the subsconscious habits we all have. So we want to work just as much on changing our habits as we do our beliefs.

    Vaughan | April 6th, 2011 | Comment Permalink
  9. Yes! Use the Law of Attraction to manifest the partner that is your soul mate! If Mira keeps total faith in the LOA and thinks about the soul mate she’s looking for, she will find him. In fact, begin thanking the Universe now for what you know will happen in the future.

  10. The Law Of Attraction for me is all about focusing your thoughts and actions towards a goal. if your goal is your soulmate then the LOA will get you there.

    Robert James | December 4th, 2014 | Comment Permalink
  11. One of the most important methods of manifesting your desires is positive expectation. Always act as if what you want is done, because it is!

    Dave Aschaiek | February 23rd, 2015 | Comment Permalink
  12. One key method of manifesting your desires is acting as if what you want is already done, because it is. If what you want is a soul mate, have faith that the universe has already taking care of it.

    Dave | February 23rd, 2015 | Comment Permalink
  13. I agree with Dave, trying to manifest without taking some positive action will not likely bring any results.

    Robert Rigsby | March 24th, 2015 | Comment Permalink

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