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4 Ways to Parent the Impulsive Child

Susan Stiffelman by Susan Stiffelman | March 25th, 2013 | No Comments
topic: Family Health, Health & Wellness, Personal Growth, Relationships | tags: acceptance and children, act your age, ADD, adolescent hormones, alienation, ally, alternative approaches for restless children, behaving appropriately, brain, champion, children, children confiding in parents, children's mishaps, curb impulsive behavior in kids, developmental lab, disappointment, disruptive children, failing, fish oil for children, frustrating behavior, frustrating children, fueling misbehavior, good nutrition for children, human beings, impatient children, impulse and action, impulsive behavior, inhibitory response, mean children, nature and children, parent, patient children, pfc, PFC developmental function, pre-frontal cortex, school behavior, scolding, self confidence, sleep and children, stress

A parent wrote me recently to say that her 13-year-old son’s impulsive behavior was frustrating his teachers and driving away potential friends. Here is the advice I shared with her:

The prefrontal cortex (PFC) is the part of the brain behind the forehead that governs the inhibitory response in human beings. It creates a pause between having an impulse and acting on it.

In the ADD-ish children and teens I’ve worked with, I almost always see up to a 30-percent developmental lag between a child’s actual age and their PFC developmental function. In other words, while a child may officially be 13 years old (and might be even more mature in some respects), they may be more like an 8- or 9-year-old when it comes to controlling their impulsive behavior.

How to Be at Home in Your Body

Gaiam Staff by Gaiam Staff | August 14th, 2012 | No Comments
topic: Fitness, Personal Growth, Yoga | tags: ahimsa, ayurveda, Big Happy Day, bodies, body-image, compassion, compassionate, Felicia Tomasko interview, identity, Kasey Luber, perfect, perfectionist, self confidence, self-esteem, true nature, true self, unique, Yoga, yoga sutras

Are you at home in your true nature? According to yoga and Ayurveda practitioner Felicia Tomasko, one of the most important things we can do is to stop striving for perfection or trying to be someone else. To do this, we need to be actively compassionate with ourselves by embracing who we are and our uniqueness both on and off the yoga mat. To learn more, visit LAyogaOnline.com.

Week 10: Putting It All Together

Tanja Djelevic by Tanja Djelevic | May 21st, 2012 | 1 Comment
topic: Fitness | tags: 10-week program, animal protein, bikini body, body cleanse, confidence, deep tissue massage, detox diet, detoxify, eggs, energy, exercise, fish, Fitness, fruits, fun, health, healthy, laugh, laughter, motivation, natural-cleanse, personal trainer, self confidence, spring training, stretching, vegetables, veggies, week 10, week ten, weeks, well-being, wellness, whole grains, work out, workout, Yoga

Thumbs Up Fitness Woman

Congrats! You made it to the tenth and final week of the Better Body and More Energy Challenge! I knew you could do it.

For your last assignment, I’d like to you tie together everything you’ve learned about nutrition and fitness over the past nine weeks. Don’t worry — it sounds more daunting than it really is!

Raising Hope-Full Children

Susan Stiffelman by Susan Stiffelman | May 18th, 2012 | No Comments
topic: Personal Growth, Relationships | tags: being present, children, confidence, confident, dad, families, family, HOPE, hopeful, mom, mother, optimistic, parent, parenting, Parenting Without Power Struggles, preteen, self confidence

Hopeful children

The first title I imagined for the parenting book I would someday write was Please Don’t Let the Light in Your Child’s Eyes Grow Dim. I had run into a 12-year-old girl whom I’d known at the age of four, when she was one of the brightest, most vibrant kids I had ever met. When I saw her at 12, I hardly recognized her. She was slumped into herself, subdued, and her light was … dim.

As I began writing, I was determined to articulate what I had come to understand about how to help children manifest their gifts and head into adulthood with joy and passion.

Leap and the Net Will Appear

Cynthia James by Cynthia James | April 27th, 2012 | 6 Comments
topic: Personal Growth | tags: affirmation, changes, choice, confidence, Cynthia James, decisions, faith, fear, Greg Louganis, HOPE, Indiana Jones, inspirational, leap of faith, life, love, risk, self confidence, self growth, self-awareness, spirituality, taking chances, trust

Taking chances

A few weeks ago I gave a talk entitled “Leap and the Net Will Appear.” I want to begin with the fact that “something in you is always calling you to dive into your greatness.” Once you do, you will discover that you have always been amazing, talented, unique, powerful, expansive, abundant and destined to live an incredible life. On some level, we always know this. The challenge is getting to a place where we leap no matter what we are currently experiencing. Here are three things to contemplate when it comes to hoping for a better life and taking chances.

Week 4: Feel the Love and a Better Body Image

Tanja Djelevic by Tanja Djelevic | March 12th, 2012 | 3 Comments
topic: Fitness | tags: 10-week program, bikini body, body-image, compassion, confidence, criticism, energy levels, exercise, Fitness, health, healthy, lose-weight, love your body, love yourself, motivation, negative thoughts, personal trainer, positive thinking, self confidence, self-love, spring training, week 4, week four, weeks, weight-loss, well-being, wellness

Love YourselfLove is one of the most powerful forces on Earth. Unfortunately, I find that women who are most critical of their bodies are missing a degree of self-love. Do you find yourself looking in the mirror and having negative thoughts about certain parts of your body? Do you find yourself saying things like, “If only my thighs were slimmer,” or “I wish my butt wasn’t so flat”?

When I teach my fitness classes, I often invite my students to do some of the exercises with their eyes closed in order to really feel the movement. On a neuromuscular level, training the body while creating positive thoughts and making that positive connection is scientifically proven to be one of the most powerful ways to create and reinforce a positive body image. And, on a non-scientific level, it just feels good!

Week 3: Make Fitness Fun Again!

Tanja Djelevic by Tanja Djelevic | March 5th, 2012 | 2 Comments
topic: Fitness | tags: 10-week program, bikini body, confidence, dance, energy, energy levels, exercise, Fitness, fun, health, healthy, lose-weight, motivation, personal trainer, self confidence, spring training, week 3, week three, weeks, weight-loss, well-being, wellness

Fun Fitness

A while back, I had a client who was struggling with his weight. Unfortunately, he felt about as excited about exercising as he did about doing laundry. We dug into his athletic past and found that he had been discouraged by his physical abilities, which had turned into a near fear of moving his body.

We both knew that he would have to exercise to achieve his weight-loss goals, so I encouraged him to think about what physical activities he had enjoyed as a child, before the fears started building. After all, all children like to play.

Week 2: Learn to Love Food

Tanja Djelevic by Tanja Djelevic | February 27th, 2012 | 12 Comments
topic: Fitness, Health & Wellness, Healthy Eating | tags: 10-week program, bikini body, confidence, diet, eating, energy, energy levels, food, food diary, food journal, food journaling, fork method, health, healthy, healthy-eating, learn to love food, metabolism, motivation, nutrition, personal trainer, processed food, self confidence, slow-food, spring training, week 2, week two, weeks, well-being, wellness, Whole Foods

Happy woman with fruits and veggiesDiet. I shiver just hearing the word. Don’t you? How many have you tried? Most importantly, how many have failed you?

Food is always a part of our life experience. In my home country of Sweden, we socialize a lot around food. In the world of fitness, proper nutrition is vital for making progress and increasing energy levels. As a child, food is a necessity for growth and development, and as we get older, we become more aware of our diet’s impact on our longevity. So why then do we get lost in the middle?

10 Weeks to a Better Body and More Energy

Tanja Djelevic by Tanja Djelevic | February 21st, 2012 | 2 Comments
topic: Fitness, Personal Growth | tags: 10 weeks, 10-week program, better-body, bikini body, calm, confidence, daily walk, endorphins, energy, exercise, Fitness, health, healthy, hike, motivation, personal trainer, self confidence, spring training, stress, walk, week 1, week one, well-being, wellness, work out, workout

woman after workout

Believe it or not, spring is right around the corner! In Los Angeles where I live, it has already started: The days are getting longer, the birds are chirping louder outside my window and I’m starting to feel that subtle energy change, both in my personal training clients and in myself!

This is the time when there is so much “newness” happening that I like to use it as a catalyst to create a resurgent flow of energy for the rest of the year. The best thing about creating this flow of energy is that the byproducts can include a fitter body, more energy and an influx of self-confidence.

But I can’t stress enough that change takes time. Starting too many things all at once usually ends in exhaustion and a feeling of “I MUST DO” instead of “I WANT TO.” One of the best ways to overcome the inertia and the absolute best way of creating a habit and sticking to it is to change slowly and repeat the new positive pattern over and over again. And over the next ten weeks, that exactly what we’re going to do!

Why Acting Like You Own the Joint Will Make You a Better Yoga Teacher

Amy Ippoliti by Amy Ippoliti | January 30th, 2012 | 12 Comments
topic: Fitness, Yoga | tags: Amy Ippoliti, confidence, confident, fear, insecurity, nervous, self confidence, self-esteem, yoga class, yoga instructor, yoga students, yoga teacher

Confident yoga teacher

Have you ever taken a yoga class and the teacher was sheepish, visibly insecure or just not confident? C’mon, you can tell me — did you want to walk out?

I don’t blame you if you did.