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Best Way to Stop Infidelity

Gay and Katie Hendricks by Gay and Katie Hendricks | January 24th, 2012 | 4 Comments
topic: Relationships | tags: affairs, boyfriend, cheating, dating, girlfriend, husband, infidelity, integrity, jealousy, love column, marriage, media messages, partner, relationship advice, Relationships, spose, television, trust, TV, wife

Happy couple

One thing we keep an eye out for is what kind of relationship advice is being dispensed subliminally through sit-coms, dramas, even the news shows. So when a morning show host began an interview with an expert on infidelity the other day, I watched out of the corner of my eye.

How Important Is Chemistry in Love?

Arielle Ford by Arielle Ford | January 19th, 2012 | No Comments
topic: Personal Growth, Relationships | tags: Arielle Ford, Big Love, chemistry, compatibility, desire, how to attract your soulmate, love, marriage, Relationships, romance, soul mate, soulmate, The Soulmate Secret

Dear Arielle & Brian,

I am 46 years old and unmarried. Last summer, I connected with someone online and we both felt we were soulmates, brought together by divine intervention. Two months later he decided to fly 5,000 miles to come meet me, with an understanding that the meeting was just to see each other at least once and get comfortable.

Upon our meeting, the guy felt there was no chemistry. Because we had so much in common, I was willing to give it a try, but he wasn’t, although he did want to keep in touch and remain friends, which I said no to.

Arielle and Brian, why does this happen? Is it right to give up so much in common for chemistry? Was this guy not really my soulmate? I am confused.

Find the Freedom in Forgiveness

Arielle Ford by Arielle Ford | December 19th, 2011 | No Comments
topic: Relationships | tags: Arielle Ford, betrayal, Big Love, divorce, forgiveness, happiness, how to attract your soulmate, love, Relationships, single, soulmate, spirituality, The Soulmate Secret

EnvelopeDear Arielle and Brian,

I was married for 30 years and it was always a difficult relationship. I learned many important life lessons throughout it all — even how to forgive betrayal, though we eventually divorced. For the past seven years I have been enjoying my single life, meeting lots of new friends, traveling, redecorating my home, growing spiritually … but this past summer I found out that my ex, now 59, had been living with a woman 20 years younger than him, and she is having his child. (We have two children together, now ages 27 and 29.) The idea that he had started over with a new family hit me hard and brought up much anger, resentment and feelings that he doesn’t deserve happiness. I know this is selfish and un-Christian of me but this is how I am feeling right now. I am in therapy and I have spiritual direction as well, but how do I get to forgiveness? I really want to manifest a new soulmate!

God bless you!

Abigail

Is Your Family Sabotaging Your Chances for a Soulmate?

Arielle Ford by Arielle Ford | December 13th, 2011 | No Comments
topic: Personal Growth, Relationships | tags: Arielle Ford, attracting love, change, emotional, envy, family, finding your soulmate, love, Personal Relationships, positive change, relationship advice, Relationships, soulmate, The Soulmate Secret, threatened

Helping Hands

Dear Arielle and Brian,

I’ve made some important changes in my life, especially when it comes to manifesting a soulmate, and I’ve begun to have a positive and proactive attitude. I am noticing how many people in my life, particularly my mother, are having a real issue with my change. Perhaps she is jealous because she has been single for 16 years. Lately, she is very condescending towards me and seems very passive aggressive. Here’s my question: Is it normal when one changes for others have a real issue with it? Is it because they feel threatened? It seems like I never fully realized before the limited thinking, undeserving attitude and pessimism that surrounds me.

Thank you,

Nicole

Give Gifts a Good Reception

Leslie Garrett by Leslie Garrett | November 29th, 2011 | 1 Comment
topic: Personal Growth, Relationships | tags: acceptance, christmas, gifts, give, giving, grace, graciousness, gratitude, guilt, Hanukkah, holidays, receive, receiving, Relationships, spiritual transaction, thanks

Woman with holiday gift

With the holidays approaching, no doubt many of us are making a list and checking it twice. Ensuring that we find just the right gift to give to those we cherish in our lives.

Yet the giving is only half of the equation. We’ll undoubtedly be receiving gifts, too. And while many of us are world-class givers, can we say the same about receiving?

Sweet Little Lies

Bethany Orheim by Bethany Orheim | October 27th, 2011 | No Comments
topic: Personal Growth, Yoga | tags: acceptance, dishonesty, honesty, intention, lies, little white lies, love, lying, Personal Growth, Relationships, sankalpa, self-love, truth, Yoga

White Lies

When is the last time you told a lie? Nothing major, just a little white lie? If you’re anything like me, you lied yesterday about why you were late, or you stretched the truth about the extent to which you read a book, or perhaps you weren’t honest about what you did or didn’t eat. You are not alone. We all do this EVERY DAY.

I’ve spent the past five years in a deep self-inquiry and this is one of the most interesting discoveries I’ve made. It sounds simple but at the most subtle level I’ve started to notice the vibrational quality of these lies when they enter my mind and leave my mouth. It feels much different than when I am moving from a place of love. There is a complete lack of integrity and I find myself out of alignment with my sankalpa, my deepest intention, which is to speak my truth.

Relationship Detox: “How Do I Get Over Him?”

Arielle Ford by Arielle Ford | September 20th, 2011 | No Comments
topic: Personal Growth, Relationships | tags: Arielle Ford, broken heart, cheating, dating, emotional healing, ex, heartbreak, how to handle emotional pain, infidelity, love, marriage, obsession, Personal Relationships, Relationships, sex, soul mate, soulmate, The Soulmate Secret

Big Love Get Over Him

Dear Arielle and Brian,

My fiancé and I were together for five years. I thought he was my soul mate and we were planning to get married. But last month he told me that hes in love with someone else even though he says he still loves me. I can’t accept the fact that he has been unfaithful and claims to love another. I feel so devastated and shocked because I always felt that he’s the One for me.

What can I do to overcome my emotions and obsession with him?

Should You Recycle Your Relationships?

Arielle Ford by Arielle Ford | July 29th, 2011 | 3 Comments
topic: Personal Growth, Relationships | tags: Arielle Ford, boyfriend, brain chemistry, dating an ex, girlfriend, happiness, husband, law of attraction, love, marriage, oxytocin, relationship advice, relationship column, Relationships, soul mate, soulmate, wife

Should You Date an Ex?

Dear Arielle and Brian,

I’ve been putting out the vibes to call in a soulmate and as a result a couple of my exes are showing up. In particular, I had a reunion with my most recent ex of last year and it was quite magical.

What do you do when you are calling in “the one” and then get distracted by the recycles who become magnetized? And I’m now wondering whether he is “the one”? I realize that it comes down to discerning which one is the right one. In many ways, the familiar has an advantage because they already cherish me and know my heart versus a new man coming in and not knowing much about me. The negative side of this is that it didn’t work before and why go down that road again?

What advice do you have for me?

Somewhere in Time, It’s Midnight in Paris

Stephen Simon by Stephen Simon | June 29th, 2011 | 1 Comment
topic: Personal Growth, Relationships | tags: Christopher Reeve, critique, Film, future, love, Midnight in Paris, movie reviews, movies, Owen Wilson, Paris, passion, past, present, Rachel McAdams, Relationships, romance, Somewhere in Time, Stephen Simon, the 1920's, the past, time travel, Woody Allen

Midnight in ParisMy wife Lauren and I were delighted to see Woody Allen’s new film, Midnight in Paris, over the weekend. The film is wonderfully entertaining, very sweet and really a lot of fun.

Owen Wilson plays a successful screenwriter who has come to Paris with his fiancée and her parents. While his fiancée sees the trip as a shopping opportunity, Mr. Wilson has a different agenda. He has always loved the notion of being a novelist, has indeed written his first book, and is enamored with the whole concept of being an artist in Paris, not a commercial “hack.” Unfortunately, his fiancée (played with great audacity and courage by Rachel McAdams) is shallow, materialistic and totally horrified that her soon-to-be husband is actually considering a career that is not based solely on making money.

Can I Find True Love if I Still Love My Ex?

Arielle Ford by Arielle Ford | June 16th, 2011 | 3 Comments
topic: Personal Growth, Relationships | tags: advice column, age, alone, Arielle Ford, boyfriend, Brian Hilliard, dating, divine timing, divorce, ex, forgive, forgiveness, girlfriend, heartache, heartbreak, husband, law of attraction, let go, letting go, lonely, love, manifest, marriage, Relationships, retirement, SAD, saddness, soulmate, too old to find someone, wife

Older couple hugging

Dear Arielle and Brian,

Nearly 35 years ago my husband walked out on me and our two small children. I was devastated, as I believed he was my soulmate — my one and only. I never remarried because I could never stop loving him and hoping that we would someday reunite (even though he remarried and currently is with wife #3).

Now, as I near my retirement, I am suddenly aware of how little time I have left on the planet and I want to finally let go of the past and find new love. Is it too late for me?