You know when you’re on an airplane and the flight attendants are doing their routine safety demonstration? They tell you that, if there’s an emergency, you should place the oxygen mask over your face first and then help those around you. I think this philosophy needs to be carried over into every aspect of your life.
Taking time to take care of yourself isn’t selfish — in fact, caring for yourself is what gives you the strength and energy to take better care of those around you. You are in charge of your life and health — make time to exercise! Stop the guilt and petty excuses. No amount of guilt or worry can change someone else’s misfortune or problems, so make time for you.
Dear Arielle & Brian,
Earlier this year I met someone who I thought was my soulmate and I gave and gave and gave. I thought he also gave, but certainly not as much as I did, even though I was not keeping score. Shortly after we started dating he lost his job and turned to me for solace and advice, and then he left me abruptly, saying he did not have the emotional stamina and strength to reciprocate the giving I was demonstrating. I was left devastated and emotionally exhausted.
How are you?
I’m asked this at least a few times a day by people ranging from the letter carrier to the grocery store clerk.
I’ll tell you how I am. I’m BUSY.
It’s a popular response. All of us are, perpetually, busy. We often make vague references to the day when we won’t be so busy. We might allude to the upcoming vacation during which we plan to do nothing but read and snooze. In the meantime, we’re…busy.