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Exchange Your Rush for Hush

Cheryl Terrace by Cheryl Terrace | March 15th, 2013 | No Comments
topic: Green Living, Health & Wellness, Healthy Home, Personal Growth | tags: acreage, auditory person, bear, bed, bird calls, bird suet, bodies, cd sounds of nature, chaos, chronic noise, city dwellers, coyotes, debilitating noise, ears, environmentalism, estate, flashlight, front porch, garbage trucks, health, Heaven, home blessings, home environment, howls, human, husband, internet noise, investigate, jarring sounds, keep calm and carry, man-made sounds, meditation, minds, nature sound machine, nature sounds, New York City, noise and stress, owl, peaceful environment, quality of life, quiet time, sacred sounds, seasonal birds, sleep, slippers, soothing sights, soothing smells, soothing sounds, sound machine, sound of your breath, sounds of nature, soundscape, soundtrack, spirit, subway car, tone/volume of voice, turn off the tv, TV, wildlife, wind, Yoga

Recently, my husband Andy and I were jolted out of deep sleep at 5 am by a huge CRASH. We jumped out of bed to investigate (with me grabbing slippers and a flashlight). I assumed a bear had climbed onto the front porch table to get at the bird suet (not the first time).

As the only humans living on a two-thousand-acre estate, we are surrounded by wildlife and are accustomed to myriad nature sounds. Many nights we listen to the primal howls of coyotes, which I love. (Sometimes I even howl along with them!) We know our seasonal birds by their calls and occasionally hear an owl in the night whoo-whoo-whooing.

As an auditory person and lifelong environmentalist, this is heaven for me. It was just a short time ago I needed a sound machine (of nature!) to help me sleep in New York City, with all of its jarring, man-made sounds. (I swear the garbage trucks have amplifier speakers.)

It’s no wonder the number-one complaint of city dwellers is noise. Chronic, debilitating noise is more than just an annoyance — it plays a huge factor in our quality of life. Studies confirm that noise and stress are closely related to our health, and I am always surprised that more people don’t plug their ears (like I do) when a subway car rambles by.

What we hear transforms our brains and our lives. That’s why it’s critical to take control over your ‘personal soundscape.’ Customize your home environment as you would a beautiful soundtrack to create a haven of soothing sounds (and sights and smells). Here are a few tips to do that:

I’m Spiritual — He’s Not. Can Our Relationship Work?

Arielle Ford by Arielle Ford | February 24th, 2012 | No Comments
topic: Relationships | tags: advice columnist, couple, couselor, dating, husband, law of attraction, love, marriage, nature, relationship advice, romance, spiritual path, spirituality, spontaneity, therapist, wife

Spiritual Couple

Dear Arielle & Brian,

I have been married for 10 years. Three years ago I began a serious spiritual path to discovering the awesome abundance of possibilities in the spiritual world. I have asked my husband to join me on this journey. I have told him that I love him and I long for more romance and spontaneity. His response was very negative and he says I am forcing him into something he is not comfortable with. He surfs, windsurfs and plays guitar and he says that this is way of connecting to the Spirit. Do you think a marriage can survive if one partner embraces the spiritual journey and the other does not?

With love,

Ursula

Verbal Valentines Work Wonders in Relationships

Gay and Katie Hendricks by Gay and Katie Hendricks | February 8th, 2012 | 3 Comments
topic: Relationships | tags: boyfriend, communicate, communication, compliements, emotions, feelings, girlfriend, husband, love, marriage, partner, relationship advice, Relationships, significant other, spouse, talking, Valentines Day, verbal valentines, wife

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One of the keys to healthy relationships is spoken appreciation. Other kinds of appreciation (such as touch or giving a hand with a chore) are great, too, but spoken appreciation is highly valued and easy to do. We recommend a technique we call verbal valentines, which work wonders in any kind of relationship.

We give each other 10-second verbal valentines all year long. We believe it’s one of the main reasons we’re more in love now than when we met 32 years ago. Verbal valentines are not just for lovers, either.  You can give them at work, to children, to other family members and to cherished friends.

6 Ways to Be Active with the One You Love

Chris Freytag by Chris Freytag | February 6th, 2012 | No Comments
topic: Family Health, Fitness, Health & Wellness, Healthy Eating, Healthy Home, Relationships, Weight Loss | tags: active, ballroom dancing, boyfriend, coffee, couples, dance, date activities, date ideas, date night, Fitness, girlfriend, Habitat for Humanity, health, hiking, husband, kick-boxing, kickboxing, lose-weight, love, movies, restaurant, romance, romantic, sex, significant other, The Special Olympics, Valentines Day, volunteer, walking, weight-loss, wife, wine, Yoga

Planning and scheduling time with those you love is obviously crucial to maintaining a healthy and happy relationship. We are all so busy these days that it’s always a good idea to schedule time to reconnect.

If you’re like most people, your dates/special times are based on “calories consumed,” whether that means eating at a new restaurant, getting snacks at a movie, meeting for a fancy coffee or a glass of wine after work. These things can be great ideas for spending time together but once in a while why not try  looking at the opportunity to be with those you love a little differently?

Plan your time with loved ones based on “calories burned.” What I mean is to pick activities to do together that are focused on being active and expending calories.

Best Way to Stop Infidelity

Gay and Katie Hendricks by Gay and Katie Hendricks | January 24th, 2012 | 4 Comments
topic: Relationships | tags: affairs, boyfriend, cheating, dating, girlfriend, husband, infidelity, integrity, jealousy, love column, marriage, media messages, partner, relationship advice, Relationships, spose, television, trust, TV, wife

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One thing we keep an eye out for is what kind of relationship advice is being dispensed subliminally through sit-coms, dramas, even the news shows. So when a morning show host began an interview with an expert on infidelity the other day, I watched out of the corner of my eye.

How to Make the Holidays a Time of Positive Change (Even If You’re Alone!)

Laura Day by Laura Day | November 14th, 2011 | No Comments
topic: Personal Growth, Relationships | tags: arguments, brother, change, christmas, communication, desires, dreams, family, father, fighting, friends, goals, Hanukkah, holidays, husband, intuition, kids, mother, new year's, parents, positive change, relationship patterns, resolutions, sister, thanksgiving, transformation, wife, winter

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You can make the holidays a time of dramatic change and healing by using your innate intuitive abilities in a conscious and directed way.

Holidays are supposed to be a time when families unite, when you are reminded of your childhood or revisit the memories of yourself over the years. You may be spending this time alone or far from home. But no matter where you are or who you are with, the holidays provide you with a unique opportunity to heal the inner patterns and relationships that have been obstructing your life and hindering your dreams.

Should You Recycle Your Relationships?

Arielle Ford by Arielle Ford | July 29th, 2011 | 3 Comments
topic: Personal Growth, Relationships | tags: Arielle Ford, boyfriend, brain chemistry, dating an ex, girlfriend, happiness, husband, law of attraction, love, marriage, oxytocin, relationship advice, relationship column, Relationships, soul mate, soulmate, wife

Should You Date an Ex?

Dear Arielle and Brian,

I’ve been putting out the vibes to call in a soulmate and as a result a couple of my exes are showing up. In particular, I had a reunion with my most recent ex of last year and it was quite magical.

What do you do when you are calling in “the one” and then get distracted by the recycles who become magnetized? And I’m now wondering whether he is “the one”? I realize that it comes down to discerning which one is the right one. In many ways, the familiar has an advantage because they already cherish me and know my heart versus a new man coming in and not knowing much about me. The negative side of this is that it didn’t work before and why go down that road again?

What advice do you have for me?

Can I Find True Love if I Still Love My Ex?

Arielle Ford by Arielle Ford | June 16th, 2011 | 3 Comments
topic: Personal Growth, Relationships | tags: advice column, age, alone, Arielle Ford, boyfriend, Brian Hilliard, dating, divine timing, divorce, ex, forgive, forgiveness, girlfriend, heartache, heartbreak, husband, law of attraction, let go, letting go, lonely, love, manifest, marriage, Relationships, retirement, SAD, saddness, soulmate, too old to find someone, wife

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Dear Arielle and Brian,

Nearly 35 years ago my husband walked out on me and our two small children. I was devastated, as I believed he was my soulmate — my one and only. I never remarried because I could never stop loving him and hoping that we would someday reunite (even though he remarried and currently is with wife #3).

Now, as I near my retirement, I am suddenly aware of how little time I have left on the planet and I want to finally let go of the past and find new love. Is it too late for me?

Cutting the Cords to Past Relationships

Arielle Ford by Arielle Ford | February 23rd, 2011 | 9 Comments
topic: Personal Growth, Relationships | tags: advice column, Arielle Ford, boyfriend, break up, breakup, Brian Hilliard, dating, ex, friends, future, girlfriend, husband, law of attraction, life-coach, love, manifest, manifestation, oxytocin, physical intimacy, psychologist, relationship, romance, salt bath, sex, shower, soulmate, the past, therapist, tub, wife

Cut the cord to your past relationshipDear Arielle and Brian,

During the past year I have done many of your suggested soulmate manifestation exercises, however, I still haven’t been able to emotionally pull the cord from my past relationship with Doug. We dated for a few months and then transitioned to just “good friends” because I’m not physically attracted to him and no longer wanted to be physically intimate with him. I care deeply for him and truly enjoy our time together as friends. I feel my heart is very connected to his but I can’t seem to resolve this past relationship and move on in peace. If you have any advice I would appreciate it!

What I Know for Sure: True Love Is Possible at Any Age

Arielle Ford by Arielle Ford | February 14th, 2011 | 3 Comments
topic: Personal Growth, Relationships | tags: advice column, age, aging, Arielle Ford, boyfriend, dating, destiny, divine timing, girlfriend, husband, intention, law of attraction, love, manifest, manifestation, prepare, Relationships, romance, savor the waiting, signs, single, Soulmate Secret, universe, visualization, wife

Soulmate Secret: Find your true love at any age

Here’s what I know for sure: Finding true love is possible for anyone at any age if you’re willing to prepare your self, on all levels, to become a magnet for love.

This wonderful Universe of ours is set up to deliver the people and things we draw to us that are consistent with our personal belief system. If you don’t believe you will ever find the ONE, then, guess what? You get to be right … you probably won’t.