“I didn’t even know I was unhappy until people started commenting on my new bubbly lease on life,” says a client of mine who lost 80 pounds over the course of a year. Yet one of the most exasperating things about losing weight safely and healthfully is that a loss of two pounds a week isn’t always noticed right away by friends and family.
You’ve been doing well making a change, and then something threw a monkey wrench into your formula for success. Make no mistake — setbacks suck. You’re right back where you started. Actually it’s worse. Because you’ve set off that part of your mind that whispers, “See, you can’t do this. Just give up. Give in. It’s not worth even trying.” This is a truly dangerous moment. Because if we listen to this voice, not only do we not change this time, but we decrease the possibility of ever changing because we lose faith in ourselves.
Are you having fun yet? I think of fun in two ways. First there’s the possibility of actually enjoying a new behavior. That’s especially easy when we’ve chosen something potentially fulfilling — learning the two-step, getting to know your new neighborhood, getting the pile of papers off your desk, following your dream of getting a pilot’s license. The more you can find ways to make your new habit fun, the more likely you’ll stick to it. Do it with friends, create a contest with your kids to see who’s better at it, make it into a silly game.
Whatever you are working on, you will not do it perfectly. The trick is not to never goof up, but not to turn goof-ups into give-ups. In order to keep motivated and not give up when you blow it, it’s important that you use what you learn from your tracking — I said I would exercise 30 minutes every day and I haven’t done it once — as information, not as the chance for self-punishment. The more you criticize, blame, shame or guilt-trip yourself, the less well you’ll do.
Isn’t it interesting how constant change is the driving force in our society, yet the hardest thing for us to change is ourselves?
Every January, fitness clubs across the nation are packed with people who have the best of intentions and big plans for transforming themselves. By the end of February, almost all those newcomers are gone.
The new year is a great time to make resolutions — and, of course, to reflect on how far we’ve fallen short on those of years passed. Statistics show that a majority of us fail to make good on our promises to exercise more, be a kinder person or start saving money — much less stick to all the green resolutions we make every January (confession: I still leave my lights on way too much). Fortunately, there’s a new tool to help us ratchet up our stick-to-it success rate.
Anyone can set a goal but how many goals have you set and actually achieved? Setting a goal is a conscious act but achieving a goal is a spiritual act. In order to achieve a goal we have to impress the idea onto our subconscious part of our brain. Our subconscious is where our beliefs are. Once an idea or a thought has become a belief, a thought we have practiced over and over, it will then manifest, but not before that. Once your new thought becomes a belief you are unstoppable.
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One of the excuses people so often think is a “good” excuse for slacking off is “I don’t have enough time to exercise.” The problem with that is, it is just an excuse. And all excuses do is build a wall around us and what we say we want — by allowing us to believe that circumstances out of our control define what we choose to do in our life.