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Stop the Madness: Choose Mindfulness Over Perfection This Holiday Season

YOGANONYMOUS by YOGANONYMOUS | December 10th, 2013 | 1 Comment
topic: Personal Growth, Relationships, Yoga | tags: calm the mind, family, friends, holiday season, holidays, hosting, in the moment, Jon Kabat-Zinn, meditation, mind, Mindfullness, perfect holiday, perfection, practice saying no, present moment awareness, silence, slow down, stillness, stress, The National Science Foundation, to-do list, unity, voluntary simplicity, Wherever You Go There You Are, witness thoughts, Yoga

I’m just going to say it … I think the holiday season needs a radical overhaul.

We see ads for the perfect holiday meals, served in a lovely setting where everyone is smiling, especially the gracious host. Truth is, in order to achieve this type of perfection, we nearly kill ourselves with stress trying to get that end result.

I’m sure your mind, like mine, is kicked into high gear this time of year to attend to the million things you have to accomplish between now and January first, but time is limited and your body begins to suffer. It will only be a short time before insomnia and exhaustion set in. Instead of enjoying our time with loved ones, we can wind up emotionally unavailable and stressed out.

Home for the Holidays: How to Make Your Guests Feel Welcome

Cheryl Terrace by Cheryl Terrace | December 10th, 2013 | 1 Comment
topic: Eco Decorating, Green Living, Healthy Home, Personal Growth, Relationships | tags: candles, clutter, comfort, company, decor, entertaining, family, friends, guests, holiday season, home, hospitality, house, hugs, music, party, winter

Holiday candles and holly on the mantle

The holidays are a festive — and often frantic — time of year, with family and friends gathering together. The setting for all these celebrations takes place in our homes, where creating comfort for our guests is the primary focus.

8 Ways to Up Your Emotional Energy Level

Kate Hanley by Kate Hanley | March 27th, 2013 | 3 Comments
topic: Personal Growth | tags: accessing higher energy levels, anything is possible, at-home facial, be of service, be there for someone else, being tired, being triggered, celebrate life, cook, creativity, do something you are great at, doubt, emotionally charged, emotionally tender, energetic downers, energy boost, energy level, exercise, feel alive, feel connected, feel fantastic, feeling sorry for yourself, freak out, friends, get present, get quiet, good deeds, groovy feelings, inner voice, laugh, let good grow, life detours, look for the good, opinions, personal development, personal frequency, physical energy, regret, roller skating, showing up in the world, sick, sing, singing, stamina, stop fighting it, strength, stressed, stuck, talents, tell the truth, truth telling, truth will set you free, unexpressed emotions, upward energetic trajectory

Stuck. Stymied. Spun out. Stressed. Sick. Silently (or perhaps not so silently) freaking out. We’ve all been there, we’ll all be there again. Because, sadly, personal development isn’t a tidy, linear, upward-moving arrow. It’s a curlicue, a doodle. At times it loops back on itself and shoots you somewhere you never expected to be.

This is an incomplete list of what to do in those moments when you need an energy boost, stat. And you can probably already tell I’m not talking about the energy that means physical stamina or strength, or how tired you are or aren’t. I’m talking about how you view, interact with, and show up in the world. It’s your own personal frequency, and when you learn how to access the higher energy levels, that’s when the inevitable detours stop feeling so hard and avoid becoming cul de sacs.

Here’s how to access those groovy-feeling higher energy states when you find yourself bogged down in feeling sorry for yourself, ticked off at someone else, or replaying events over and over in your mind:

Free Seminar! Beyond Addiction: Recovery 2.0

Tommy Rosen by Tommy Rosen | February 18th, 2013 | 3 Comments
topic: Fitness, Health & Wellness, Personal Growth, Yoga | tags: alcohol addiction, beyond addiction, childhood obesity, destructive behaviors, drug addiction, drugs, family, field of addition, food addiction, freedom, friends, getting clean, heart disease, lies, life beyond addiction, lying, medical pandemics, meditation, modalities of recovery, money addiction, optimal health, recovery 2.0, sex addiction, stress management, Tadasana Festival, the recovery diet, the twelve steps, Tommy Rosen, twisted thinking, type 2 diabetes, vibrant life, Yoga

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What is addiction? How does it feel to be an addict? What does it look like? Is there a way out, a place BEYOND ADDICTION? These critical questions and the way we answer them make the difference between living a life enslaved to destructive behaviors and one of freedom and expansion.

Most people are familiar with addiction to drugs or alcohol, but addiction takes many forms and it is everywhere around us, all the time. At its very core, addiction is any behavior you continue to engage in despite the negative consequences it brings. If we take the time to really look at ourselves and at the world around us, we don’t have to look hard to see it. Addiction is the root of some of the biggest challenges our society faces today. For example, the medical pandemics of childhood obesity, type 2-diabetes and heart disease are preventable lifestyle diseases driven in large part by addiction.

As an addict you feel stuck, incapable of giving up that thing that you “need” to survive, to function. It twists your thinking, your experience of the world. Addiction leaves you lying to your friends, to your family, to yourself. Being an addict is like being in a small dark room where the only exit seems to be locked from the outside.

The truth is that there is a way out, a way BEYOND ADDICTION. Though neither easy, nor a road one travels alone, a life beyond the grips of addiction is very real. At one time I was stuck in that downward spiral, but after 21 years of recovery I am living proof that an expansive and vibrant life beyond addiction can and does exist.

‘Social Media’ Your Way to Health and Fitness

Tamara Grand by Tamara Grand | February 7th, 2013 | 5 Comments
topic: Fitness, Health & Wellness, Personal Growth, Relationships | tags: at-home workouts, birds of a feather flock together, circle of friends, clean eating recipes, diet, engage, exercise challenge, exercise classes, exercise habits, exercise schedule, facebook, family, friends, get motivated, healthy habits, healthy living, inspirational photos, instagram, interact, low calorie recipes, meals, old friends, paleo diet, participate, personal support group, pinterest, quinoa, smartphone photos, social, social interactions, social media platforms, social networking, socially, tweet, twitter, twitter chats, urge to eat, visual cookbook, weight loss groups, YouTube

Humans are inherently social creatures. Most of us enjoy the company of others and spend much of our waking time engaging in social interactions with friends and family.

Interestingly, people who spend a lot of time together often adopt one another’s eating and exercise habits, sometimes for the better, but often for the worse. Remember the old saying ‘birds of a feather, flock together’?

But there’s a positive side to our desire to conform socially. Find the right circle of friends — your own personal support group — and sticking to an exercise schedule or diet becomes easier. Hence the popularity of organized weight-loss groups and exercise classes.

Furthermore, research demonstrates that just having a weight-loss or fitness support system in place results in better adherence to diet and exercise and more pounds shed and kept off over the long term.

Don’t have access to a local support group? Make your own via one of the following social media platforms:

Gratitude for Food: Why I Fasted on Thanksgiving

Girlfriend@Gaiam by Girlfriend@Gaiam | November 28th, 2012 | 3 Comments
topic: Girlfriend@Gaiam, Giving Back, Personal Growth | tags: dinner, eating, empathize, empathy, family, fast, fasting, feast, food, food bank, friends, grateful, gratitide, holiday, homeless, hungry, mindful, mindfulness, poor, thankful, thanks, thanksgiving, Thich Nhat Hanh

Fasting

I love good food and celebrations with family and friends. Which makes Thanksgiving one of my favorite holidays — it serves up both in spades!

But this Thanksgiving, I did something a little different. Rather than filling my belly with the usual feast, I decided to observe a day of fasting, which I followed up with a donation to our local food bank.

That’s right: a no-food Thanksgiving!

How to Make the Holidays a Time of Positive Change (Even If You’re Alone!)

Laura Day by Laura Day | November 14th, 2011 | No Comments
topic: Personal Growth, Relationships | tags: arguments, brother, change, christmas, communication, desires, dreams, family, father, fighting, friends, goals, Hanukkah, holidays, husband, intuition, kids, mother, new year's, parents, positive change, relationship patterns, resolutions, sister, thanksgiving, transformation, wife, winter

Happy family eating holiday dinner
You can make the holidays a time of dramatic change and healing by using your innate intuitive abilities in a conscious and directed way.

Holidays are supposed to be a time when families unite, when you are reminded of your childhood or revisit the memories of yourself over the years. You may be spending this time alone or far from home. But no matter where you are or who you are with, the holidays provide you with a unique opportunity to heal the inner patterns and relationships that have been obstructing your life and hindering your dreams.

Who Knew Emotions Were So “Weighty”?

The FIRM Master Instructor Team by The FIRM Master Instructor Team | July 19th, 2011 | No Comments
topic: Green Living, Health & Wellness, Healthy Eating, Weight Loss | tags: bad habits, binge, binging, calories, cravings, depression, diet, dieting, eat your feelings, emotional, emotions, exercise, Fitness, food, friends, habits, healthy habits, healthy-eating, hobby, hunger, isolation, meditate, meditation, nutrition, overeat, overeating, portion control, self-control, stress, stress eating, support, the firm, weight gain, weight-loss, work out, workout

I did a Google search on what causes stress in people’s lives and I found things like unemployment, divorce, financial problems, health issues, fatigue and so on. In reflecting on how I deal with stress, let’s just say that far, far less than unemployment has caused me to eat a dozen donuts in one sitting!

Yes, I’m talking about stress eating. Most of us have had the unfortunate pleasure of experiencing it at one point or another, and it is not for the faint of heart. I can down a whole can of party peanuts if Auden has a particularly bad day at school! Thankfully I have come to terms with the real me and I am now able to recognize the signs of impending stress and do a fairly good job of not eating us out of house and home when things get rough. Please allow me to share some of my tips, and I welcome any you have to share that have worked for you.

The Art of Healing

Cynthia James by Cynthia James | April 28th, 2011 | 4 Comments
topic: Personal Growth | tags: abundance, affirmation, anxiety, bad habits, beauty, behavior, beliefs, change, clutter, damage, doubt, emotion, energy, evolution, fear, friends, friendship, growth, healer, healing, health, inner peace, inspiration, intentions, joy, mental, mind, negativity, pain, perfection, Personal Growth, positive thinking, power, psychology, rebirth, renewal, self help, spirituality, support, thought patterns, thoughts, transformation, victim, well-being

The Art of HealingOftentimes people come to me and state that their intention is to heal. The definition of healing is to restore to health and soundness; to set right; restoration of that which is damaged to its normal function; regeneration (spiritual, revival, rebirth); and renewal of any lost part.

“The renewal of any lost part” caught my attention. During challenging times people are often seeking parts of themselves that they think have been lost, stolen or damaged. I believe that we are, inherently, whole, and that at the core of our being, beauty and peace exist. When my clients speak about wanting to heal, we explore the deep desire to remember that they are not broken or damaged goods. We talk about the fact that in every situation there is good and it is leading us back to a state of wholeness. When the Japanese mend broken objects, they fill the cracks with gold. They believe that when something is damaged and has a history, it is more beautiful. What if that were true of us? What if each and every aspect of our life stories was an essential ingredient that made us stronger and more beautiful?

Cutting the Cords to Past Relationships

Arielle Ford by Arielle Ford | February 23rd, 2011 | 9 Comments
topic: Personal Growth, Relationships | tags: advice column, Arielle Ford, boyfriend, break up, breakup, Brian Hilliard, dating, ex, friends, future, girlfriend, husband, law of attraction, life-coach, love, manifest, manifestation, oxytocin, physical intimacy, psychologist, relationship, romance, salt bath, sex, shower, soulmate, the past, therapist, tub, wife

Cut the cord to your past relationshipDear Arielle and Brian,

During the past year I have done many of your suggested soulmate manifestation exercises, however, I still haven’t been able to emotionally pull the cord from my past relationship with Doug. We dated for a few months and then transitioned to just “good friends” because I’m not physically attracted to him and no longer wanted to be physically intimate with him. I care deeply for him and truly enjoy our time together as friends. I feel my heart is very connected to his but I can’t seem to resolve this past relationship and move on in peace. If you have any advice I would appreciate it!