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Forget Yoga Envy + Remember Who You Are

Kathryn Budig by Kathryn Budig | October 29th, 2013 | 17 Comments
topic: Fitness, Personal Growth, Yoga | tags: abilities, ability, asanas, ashtanga, blessings, body, compare, confidence, crying, disappointment, envious, envy, exercise, Fitness, frustration, gift, handstand, headstand, inversions, invert, jealous, jealously, Joseph Campbell, Kathryn Budig, love, negative thoughts, physical, self-love, self-respect, workout, Yoga, yoga class, yoga competition, yoga poses, yoga studio, yoga-practice

Yoga EnvyThe yoga practice is a glorious dance of the physical possibilities in the human body. An advanced practice can take your breath away as easily as it can expand your ujjayi. It can twist and turn in directions that make an artist quiver with creative jealousy and inspire even the heaviest of sloths to entertain a change of mind.

That being said — it can also be intimidating as hell.

I learned, trained, teach and practice in Santa Monica, California. It is the mecca of yoga these days and the cream of the crop when it comes to beautiful practices. It’s hard to find a level 2-3 class that doesn’t have at least one yogi soaring through the air in-between asanas or adding what appears to be a level-X variation to every pose. It can often be inspiring and mind-blowing but it can also be, in a word, daunting.

4 Ways to Parent the Impulsive Child

Susan Stiffelman by Susan Stiffelman | March 25th, 2013 | No Comments
topic: Family Health, Health & Wellness, Personal Growth, Relationships | tags: acceptance and children, act your age, ADD, adolescent hormones, alienation, ally, alternative approaches for restless children, behaving appropriately, brain, champion, children, children confiding in parents, children's mishaps, curb impulsive behavior in kids, developmental lab, disappointment, disruptive children, failing, fish oil for children, frustrating behavior, frustrating children, fueling misbehavior, good nutrition for children, human beings, impatient children, impulse and action, impulsive behavior, inhibitory response, mean children, nature and children, parent, patient children, pfc, PFC developmental function, pre-frontal cortex, school behavior, scolding, self confidence, sleep and children, stress

A parent wrote me recently to say that her 13-year-old son’s impulsive behavior was frustrating his teachers and driving away potential friends. Here is the advice I shared with her:

The prefrontal cortex (PFC) is the part of the brain behind the forehead that governs the inhibitory response in human beings. It creates a pause between having an impulse and acting on it.

In the ADD-ish children and teens I’ve worked with, I almost always see up to a 30-percent developmental lag between a child’s actual age and their PFC developmental function. In other words, while a child may officially be 13 years old (and might be even more mature in some respects), they may be more like an 8- or 9-year-old when it comes to controlling their impulsive behavior.

Breaking New Ground

Patricia Moreno by Patricia Moreno | August 22nd, 2012 | 2 Comments
topic: Fitness, Personal Growth | tags: apple seed, desires, determination, disappointment, fear, fear of failure, fulfillment, goals, greatness, growth, happiness, IntenSati, intention, Michael Beckwith, motivation, Patricia Moreno, personal development, Personal Growth, personal power, positive-thoughts, potential, pregnant, pursuing dreams, Yoga

Breaking Ground

While in LA this past month, I spent some time at the Agape Spiritual Center and listened to the teachings of its founder, Reverend Michael Beckwith. I was inspired by so much of what he said, and one thing really struck home: “If you are not living on the edge, you are taking up too much space.”

So often we have a dream or a desire to accomplish something, to do something or to create something, but we get stopped in our tracks because we are paralyzed by the fear of failure or fear of discomfort. Instead of facing that fear or going through the discomfort, we give up on our dream.

Should We Abandon Hope?

Laura Hobbs by Laura Hobbs | April 27th, 2012 | No Comments
topic: Personal Growth | tags: accountability, action, affirmation, control, Danielle LaPorte, definition of hope, desire, disappointment, emotion, expectation, future, goals, happiness, HOPE, hopeful, intent, intention, lazy, passive, personal development, Personal Growth, prayer, responsibility, want, Webster’s Dictionary, White Hot Truth, wish, wishing

Abandon Hope

Hope: We hear it all the time. Heck, we say it all the time: “I hope I get the job!” or “I hope I make the cut!” or “I hope things work out!” The word “hope” adorns T-shirts, jewelry and bumper stickers everywhere. Our president even based an entire campaign on the notion.

So, hopingis that all we’ve got?

How to Find Your Parenting Cool When You’ve Temporarily Lost It

Susan Stiffelman by Susan Stiffelman | January 11th, 2012 | 2 Comments
topic: Personal Growth, Relationships | tags: anger, angry, child behavior, children, children's behavior, disappointment, discipline, expectation, family, forgiveness, healthy parenting, homework, kids, parenting, parents

Mother and daughter

It’s often said that we’re living with our best teacher, and nowhere is that more true than with our children. No one has the ability to push our buttons the way our kids do. And no one offers us the opportunity to practice the things we preach — about love, forgiveness and staying centered — like our kids do.

Every parent wants to stay cool, calm and collected. We don’t want to threaten to send them to bed without their supper when they’ve sassed back, or tell them they’re grounded for a month when — yet again — they refuse to honor their curfew. But taking a deep breath or counting to ten can seem almost impossible in the presence of kids who seem to know exactly how to push our biggest buttons.