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Embracing Impermanence: How a Control Freak Learned to Let Go

Michelle Finerty by Michelle Finerty | February 17th, 2014 | No Comments
topic: Health & Wellness, Personal Growth, Yoga | tags: awareness, breath, compassion, control, impermanence, mala, meditation, meditation chair, mindfulness, practice, Yoga

I have been making friends with impermanence. It may sound silly, but after a profound meditation experience, I came face to face with the realization that I am a control freak, and while that control has helped me in some ways, it has also caused me much suffering. I’ve opened up to the reality that everything is in a state of impermanence — the seasons change, each day is different from the previous one, all living things grow, relationships change, the years go by.

At first this was rather scary to me, as it brought up all of my fears of the unknown. I wanted to hide in my usual pattern of planning in order to maintain some power over the future. Then it dawned on me: My life is in a much better place than it used to be, and that is due primarily to the moments over the past few years when I let go and went with the flow.

Anxiety to Zen: An Open Letter to Yoga

Bonnie Schmidt by Bonnie Schmidt | March 18th, 2013 | 2 Comments
topic: Fitness, Personal Growth, Yoga | tags: anger, anxiety, arm balances, astavakrasana, breath, confidence, control, drive, enlightenment, euphoria, expression, forward fold, get to know yourself, going with the flow, imperfect, journey, judgement, knowledge, mistakes, new path, panic attacks, peace, poems, relinquish control, resentment, speak your mind, strong, sun salutations, tight hamstrings, tranquility, trust, truth, unique, universe, vinyasa, yoga class, yoga mat, yoga poses, yoga saved my life, yoga studio, yoga teacher training, yoga-practice

Yoga saved my life.

Pretty grand statement, I know. And perhaps other people say that, too. I guess depending on where you are in life or what you happen to be going through, there are a lot of things that can save your life. A good book could do it, a sign from the universe or maybe even a strong martini. But when I say that yoga saved my life, I mean it truly came into my life during one of the darkest moments I had ever experienced and gave me back my desire to really live — fully and entirely.

A few years back, I found myself completely paralyzed with anxiety. I couldn’t go to work, drive my car or even leave my house without a potential panic attack. This anxiety made me angry. It made me resentful. But most of all, it made me an entirely different person. I became a shell of what I used to be. A lot of people thought I’d stay that way. Full disclosure: I thought I’d stay that way too.

Should We Abandon Hope?

Laura Hobbs by Laura Hobbs | April 27th, 2012 | No Comments
topic: Personal Growth | tags: accountability, action, affirmation, control, Danielle LaPorte, definition of hope, desire, disappointment, emotion, expectation, future, goals, happiness, HOPE, hopeful, intent, intention, lazy, passive, personal development, Personal Growth, prayer, responsibility, want, Webster’s Dictionary, White Hot Truth, wish, wishing

Abandon Hope

Hope: We hear it all the time. Heck, we say it all the time: “I hope I get the job!” or “I hope I make the cut!” or “I hope things work out!” The word “hope” adorns T-shirts, jewelry and bumper stickers everywhere. Our president even based an entire campaign on the notion.

So, hopingis that all we’ve got?

The Case for Crying Out Loud

Suzanne Clores by Suzanne Clores | November 4th, 2010 | 11 Comments
topic: Personal Growth | tags: acceptance, awareness, Buddhist philosophy, calm, control, crying in public, embarassment, emotions, healing, hurt, laughter, Osho, pain, saddness, social stigma, stress, tears, vulnerability, vulnerable, weakness

Woman crying

The other night, I fell down the stairs. Not the whole flight, but the last four gray-slate stairs in the main lobby of the athletic club where I teach yoga. I was fully dressed and in view of at least three people when I tripped over my own boots, breaking my fall with my shins and hands. After the stars stopped swirling and the pain kicked in, I stood up, put on a brave smile and told the wincing front desk staff that I’d be okay. Then I limped out into the dark and, when it felt safe, I started to cry.

We Are All Connected: Finding Your “Big Mind”

Genpo Roshi by Genpo Roshi | December 14th, 2008 | 3 Comments
topic: Personal Growth | tags: acceptance, Buddha Mind, control, God, spirituality, Zen

We are all born with the unborn Buddha Mind, what I call Big Mind/Big Heart, an inner awareness that we are connected with others and our environment — literally One Mind. But something happens as we grow up; we begin to separate ourselves from the rest of the world. We trade the Big Heart-Mind we are born with for another mind that centers around the small self. That self then becomes our number one preoccupation.