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What to Do When Your Child Lies

Susan Stiffelman by Susan Stiffelman | November 15th, 2012 | No Comments
topic: Family Health, Health & Wellness, Personal Growth, Relationships | tags: child's behavior, children, confess, control issues, converstaion, dad, daughter, father, feelings, good liars, honest, honesty, kids, lies, lying, misbehaving, misbehavior, mom, mother, parenting advice, parenting problems, parents, problem, rules, son, talk, tell the truth

A reader recently wrote me to ask for advice about a common parenting problem:

My 6-year-old lies to me on a daily basis. He hides food in his room and lies about it, among other things. How can I get him to tell the truth?

I consider a child’s misbehavior to be a flashing neon sign announcing that something else is going on that needs to be addressed. In other words, the lying and deceptive behavior is a symptom of something else.

Country Living: My Summer of Love and Learning to Let Go

Cheryl Terrace by Cheryl Terrace | September 7th, 2011 | No Comments
topic: Eco Decorating, Eco Travel, Green Living, Personal Growth, Relationships | tags: community, control freak, control issues, eco party planning, eco-design, green parties, happiness, happy, home, hospitality, humanely raised, Leonard Cohen quote, letting go, local farms, love, meat, nature, neighbors, perfection, perfectionist, summer, sustainable, the country, the unexpected, upcycling, vegetarian, vegetarianism, welcome

Cheryl and AndyThis summer I’ve spent a good deal of time upstate in the Catskills where my boyfriend manages a 2,000-acre estate. (Two and a half times the size of Central Park!) This Gilded Age estate includes a once grand 20,000-sq-ft mansion and riding stables. Needless to say, it’s paradise for me, Nature Gal. The abundant wildlife (including bobcat and bear), fresh air, pure spring water and total lack of light pollution has me ‘blissed out in the boonies.’ I believe nature is our ultimate healer, which is the reason I incorporate all things natural into my design work. And I have never felt healthier or happier in my whole life than I have this summer, enveloped in this magical kingdom.