A Quote by Warren on love, sex, couple, marriage, and relationships


You do not find love; you decide to love.  Love does not happen to you; it happens in you. The risk of love is declaring that you have decided to love.  Your heart is open and you are exposed, hoping only for mercy from your beloved.

Warren Cooley

Source: From the Thirteen Rules of Love

Contributed by: Warren

A Quote by Warren Cooley on duty, love, relationships, marriage, sex, and couples


The duty of love proceeds from logic.  A fundamental truth of love is that it is always for creation. It is also a fundamental truth of lovers that they can never know what is best for their beloved.  Therefore the harsh duty of love is to let go.

Warren Cooley

Source: from the Thirteen Rules of Love

Contributed by: Warren

A Quote by Eckhart Tolle on eckhart tolle, power of now, being, love, communion, oneness, realization, and relationships

When listening to another person, don't just listen with your mind, listen with your whole body. Feel the energy field of your inner body as you listen.That takes attention away from thinking and creates a still space that enables you to truly listen without the mind interfering. You are giving the other person space - space to be. It is the most precious gift you can give. Most people don't know how to listen because the major part of listening is taken up by thinking. They pay more attention to that than what the other person is saying, and none at all to what really matters: the Being of the other person underneath the words and the mind. Of course you cannot feel someone else's Being except through your own. This is the beginning of the realization of oneness, which is love. At the deepest level of Being, you are one with all that.

Most human relationships consist mainly of minds interacting with each other, not of human beings communicating, being in communion. No relationship can thrive in that way, and that is why there is so much conflict in relationships. When the mind is running your life, conflict, strife, and problems are inevitable. Being in touch with your inner body creates a clear space of no-mind within which the relationship can flower.

Eckhart Tolle

Source: The Power of Now : A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment, Pages: 126..127

Contributed by: David

A Quote by Marilyn on connection, connecting, learning, learn, intelligence, patterns, relationship, relationships, and context

Making mental connections is our most crucial learning tool, the essence of human intelligence; to forge links; to go beyond the given; to see patterns, relationships, context.

Marilyn Ferguson


Contributed by: Tracy Phaup

A Quote by Alan Watts on connection, connecting, relationship, relationships, and soul

 As the ocean "waves," the universe "peoples." Every individual is an expression of the whole realm of nature, a unique action of the total universe. This fact is rarely, if ever, experienced by most individuals. Even those who know it to be true in theory do not sense or feel it, but continue to be aware of themselves as isolated "egos" inside bags of skin.

Alan Watts (1915 - 1973)


Contributed by: Tracy Phaup

A Quote by Alan Watts on connect, connection, connecting, connect, relationship, and relationships

 You didn't come into this world. You came out of it, like a wave from the ocean. You are not a stranger here.

Alan Watts (1915 - 1973)


Contributed by: Tracy Phaup

A Quote by Jerry Porras on success, fulfillment, and relationships

For Builders, the real definition of success is a life and work that brings personal fulfillment and lasting relationships and makes a difference in the world in which they live.

Jerry Porras

Source: Success Built to Last: Creating a Life that Matters, Pages: 19

Contributed by: Siona

A Quote by David Schnarch on relationships, hugging, relaxed, differentiation, and integral

Hugging till relaxed is elegant and simple. THe basics require four sentences: stand on your own two feet. Put your arms around your partner. Focus on yourself. Quiet yourself down - way down.

The real power of hugging till relaxed comes in realizing that it's both a window offering a clear view of the level of differentiation in your relationship and a useful tool for developing more differentiation. It's a perfect example of using touch to grow yourself up by learning to enjoy togetherness and separateness...

Differentiation is your ability to stand on your own two feet, physically and emotionally, when you are close to others. It allows you to stay close while your partner 'bounces off the wall.' If you can quiet yourself while your partner is flooding with anxiety, you don't have to move away or make him or her feel differently in order to control your own emotions. You can stay near - all you need to do is calm yourself down.

David Schnarch

Source: Passionate Marriage

Contributed by: Siona

A Quote by Werner Erhard on stand, love, mastery, mastery of love, possibility, opening, clearing, context, and relationships

Life is like a stand you take for someone or something - a stand you take FOR someone, towards someone, rather than it being an internal state which you represent with the word "love."  If that were true, if just that little bit were true, the distance between you and the mastery of love would be very short.  You and I could bring forth the phenomenon of love by virtue of a declaration, "I love you," where the declaration was a stand, a commitment and we could see that that was not some "thing" called love, but an opening, a possibility, a clearing in which our
experiences could show up as an expression of the declaration, of the stand, of the commitment, of the context.  If all that were really possible, then the distance between us and mastering love is pretty short.  You see, what shows up in a stand validates the stand.  If a doubt shows up in the space of something for which you stand, it shows up as an expression of the stand, that is to say it shows up for you as something to handle out of your stand, not as something contrary to that for which you stand.   So if love in our relationships was a clearing in which life became present, even what we ordinarily think of as a negative circumstance, in a clearing created by a declaration of love, where the declaration is something for which you stand, even a so-called negative circumstance does not show up in opposition to that for which you stand, but shows up as something to be handled within the stand.  

I know you're sitting there saying "gee i wish it were that easy" and I'm saying it might be something very close to that easy...just like that.   And I'm inviting you into this domain of possibility where you don't know the answers, where relationship and love exist like a question.   I know you think that love is a set of emotions and moods and thoughts and attitudes and outlooks and feelings. And I'm inviting you to consider the possibility that that simply is one interpretation not one with which you are stuck. that you do not need to live the rest of your life without love when you don't have that set of feelings which you have heretofore described as love. ...that it might be possible to bring love into your life, like a creation, like something for which you could be responsible, like something you could bring forth on your our own as a matter of declaration and as a matter of taking a stand. and that you could bring love into those circumstance in your life when the relationships are most difficult, most problematic.  And you could do it as a simple act of being where being is that for which you are willing to stand. and that the stand comes forth in a declaration and exists behind the declaration as a stand.

Werner Erhard


Contributed by: Tracy Phaup

A Quote by Hal Stone & Sidra Stone on selves, relationships, and projection

The people in the world whom we hate, judge, or have strong negative reactions toward are direct representations of our disowned selves.

Conversely, the people in the world whom we overvalue emotionally are also direct representations of our disowned selves.

Hal & Sidra Stone

Source: Embracing Each Other: How to Make All Your Relationships Work for You, Pages: Chapter One

Contributed by: ~C4Chaos

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