Eight things to do when difficulty hits you. 1. Keep calm, don't panic, don't get dramatic. 2. Don't nurse regrets, (forget what is over the dam). 3. Practice de-confusion (list it on paper). 4. Don't insist on a solution for the whole problem (just go one step at a time). 5. Ask yourself if the problem is right or wrong; (no wrong action works out right) (hold on to the right and you will come out all right in the end.). 6. Pray. 7. Go for a walk and talk with the Lord and then listen and believe. 8. Continue to persevere. You will somehow stay on top and come out all right.
When parents make a practice of hurting and humiliating their children, they do permanent damage. There is a big difference between describing what you don't like or don't stand for, to a child, and your resulting to name-calling, sarcasm, and cutting remarks. Try to avoid criticism and advice about appearances and clothes. Don't say "just do as we say." Take time to listen, consider, and explain your feelings, let them decide on miner issues. Take a reasonable interest in your child's life, but you don't need to know every detail. Remember, teen-agers can't help being oversensitive to everything. Nature biologically causes a teen-ager to cast out the parents. Don't take it so hard. Appreciate their need to grow up and look outward. Don't be too shattered when all of the sudden you aren't as important any more. Get good books on teen-agers, read them, they will help you understand and may help you from making huge mistakes. When you understand where they are and they understand where you are you can meet a common ground.
Source: Gesell Institute. Albert W. Daw Collection