False-imagination teaches that such things as light and shade, long and short, black and white are different and are to be discriminated; but they are not independent of each other; they are only different aspects of the same thing, they are terms of relation, not reality. Conditions of existence are not of a mutually exclusive character; in essence things are not two but one.
It is bad when one thing becomes two. One should not look for anything else in the Way of the Samurai. If one understands things in this manner, he should be able to hear about all Ways and be more and more in accord with his own.
Content with getting what arrives of itself. Passed beyond the pairs, free from envy, not attached to success or failure. Even acting, he is not bound. He is recognized as eternally free, who neither loathes nor craves; For he that is freed from the pairs, is easily freed from conflict.
They said to Him: "Shall we then, being children, enter the Kingdom?"
Jesus said to them: "When you make the two one, and when you make the inner as the outer and the outer as the inner and the above as the below, and when you make the male and the female into a single one, then you shall enter the kingdom."
We grow through investigation, and to investigate we need experience. We tend to repeat what we have not understood. If we are sensitive and intelligent, we need not suffer. Pain is a call for attention and the penalty of carelessness. Intelligent and compassionate action is the only remedy.
Nisargadatta Maharaj
Source: I Am That: Talks with Sri Nisargadatta, Pages: 465