Association with one's fellows is essential to the renewal of the zest for life and is indispensable to the maintenance of the courage to fight those battles consequent upon the ascent to the higher levels of human living
Midwayer Commission
Source: Urantia Book P1776:2, 160:2.8 http://www.urantiabook.org/newbook/ub/ppr160_2.html
if you hold back on the emotions if you don't allow yourself to go all the way through them you can never get to being detached. You're too busy being afraid. You're afraid of the pain, you're afraid of the grief. You're afraid of the vulnerability that loving entails. But by throwing yourself into these emoitions by allowing yourself to dive in, all thew ay, over your head even you experinece them fully completly You know what pain is. You know what love is. You know what grief is. And only then can you say "Alright I have experineced that emotion. I recognize that emotion. Now I need to detach from that emotion for a moment."
In a morbid condition of the brain, dreams often have a singular actuality, vividness, and extraordinary semblance of reality. At times monstrous images are created, but the setting and the whole picture are so truth-like and filled with details so delicate, so unexpectedly, but so artistically consistent, that the dreamer, were he an artist like Pushkin or Turgenev even, could never have invented them in the waking state. Such sick dreams always remain long in the memory and make a powerful impression on the overwrought and deranged nervous system.
You cannot teach a child any more than you can grow a plant. All you can do is on the negative side - you can only help. It is a manifestation from within; it develops its own nature - you can only take away obstructions.