Do no try to get the jar off my head, because it hurts when you pull. Please simply sit next to me and hold my hand, and the jar will soon come off itself.
Instead of surrounding yourself with two hundred smarmy people, surround yourself with two friends who appreciate you for who you are, independently of what you own. Two hundred smarmy people will abandon you when you most need them, but two friends will be your legitimate army.
No one is perfect so what makes you better then the one next to you? Is it the mistakes they made? Now sit and think about everything you did in your life that you realized or didn't realize at the time was wrong and then ask yourself again the question what makes you perfect. Instead of saying the things to them that reflect on mistakes say things that makes them stand tall for what they did do right.