"The most profound feeling of regret is not experienced through mournful reflection, nor in awareness of our squandered capability; our most acute sense of regret is instead fashioned prior to any outcome or consequence, it is rooted in the realization that by choosing one path we inadvertently do not choose several others, thereby turning away opportunity at the street before it can even approach the door to knock."
"A person with faith does not question its roots, for he knows that if he subjected it to the critical examination of his intellect, he would end up without faith. The same thing can be said of any feeling. You can analyze any feeling to death, but when you do that, you end up without feeling and without a meaninful life."
if you hold back on the emotions if you don't allow yourself to go all the way through them you can never get to being detached. You're too busy being afraid. You're afraid of the pain, you're afraid of the grief. You're afraid of the vulnerability that loving entails. But by throwing yourself into these emoitions by allowing yourself to dive in, all thew ay, over your head even you experinece them fully completly You know what pain is. You know what love is. You know what grief is. And only then can you say "Alright I have experineced that emotion. I recognize that emotion. Now I need to detach from that emotion for a moment."
Focus attention on the feeling inside you. Know that it is the pain-body. Accept that it is there. Don't think about it - don't let the feeling turn into thinking. Don't judge or analyze. Don't make an identity for yourself out of it. Stay present, and continue to be the observer of what is happening inside you. Become aware not only of the emotional pain but also of "the one who observes," the silent watcher. This is the power of the Now, the power of your own conscious presence. Then see what happens.
As you develop your feelings of self-worth,
your very purity and strength will begin to
purge out anything and anyone negative surrounding you. You will also start to
attract people and situations that honor
who you truly are and enhance your own positive energy. Eventually, this will lead
to changes in you external environment.
"Ecstasy is a Feeling that comes Only When the Heart is tuned to that pitch of Love Which melts it...Which makes it Tender...Which gives it Gentleness... Which makes it Humble" Hazat Inayat Kaan - The Sufi Message