fault

Where there is no accusation of “fault," there can be no anger.

It is essential that you examine with the eye of spiritual insight these faults … you tend to exaggerate them and thus interpret your way of living as foolish and evil conduct. You would imagine faults where there are none and see a disease in what is really a cure.
~ Ibn ’Abbad of Ronda, 1332-1390 ~

Did you feel hurt by what he said? Probably.
Was it his 'fault' that you were hurt? No.
Was he the 'cause' of your hurt? No.
He simply 'reminded' you of your 'pre-existing' sensitivity.
Be thankful for people like him.
The reason for the hurt was the 'pre-existence' of physical tension.
Breath or oxygen can release the physical tension
which results from friction against nerve endings.
The deeper the breath, the better the outcome or result.
Breathe deeply often...

When you have decided that a thing ought to be done and are doing it, never avoid bein seen doing it, though many shall form an unfavorable opinion about it. For if it is not right to do it, avoid doing the thing; but if it is right, why are you afraid of those who shall find fault wrongly?

The problem with fault-finding
Is that he who finds fault with others
Is in no way a happy person
Even after he has successfully
Accomplished his task.

"Be careful about pointing that finger, and remember, every time you do, you have three pointing right back at you." - Ara Dell Anderson (1976)