A Quote by Gavin De Becker on no, negotiation, justifications, controlling, and abuse

"No" is a word that must never be negotiated, because the person who chooses not to hear it is trying to control you…  Declining to hear "no" is a signal that someone is either seeking control or refusing to relinquish it.

Gavin De Becker

Source: The Gift of Fear

Contributed by: Tsuya

A Quote by Ken Wilber on criticism, ken wilber, shadow, projecting, controlling, never met me, borderline psychotic, borderline, ad hominen, and ad hominem

Shambhala:  [Laughing]  Actually, the most common ad hominen criticism as of late is that you are a very controlling person.  You have tried to build a huge and encompassing system because psychologically you want to control everything and everybody.

KW:  Yes, I've heard that, but only from critics who have never met me, which suggests to me that these critics are simply projecting their own shadow onto me.  Because the people who know me don't say that I am competitive or controlling.

Shambhala:  What do they say that you are?

KW:  Borderline psychotic.

Ken Wilber


Contributed by: Whitewave

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