confidence

After, I gave myself one hundren f***ing percent to the film. I still can't believe what I did. It was a journey.  I'm no longer so scared what people think of me. Jane would say 'Do you think Ruth cares what people think of her?' 'No, of course not, she is unashamed and won't be judged.' 'And do you?' 'No, no, though of course I want people to like me.' 'Ah, so you do care then.'  It changed me.  It opened me up, made me less afraid.  If I'm afraid of something, it's like 'See a mountain, Kate, and you climb it girl, or what's the point?'  To back away from fear is the worst thing you can do.  Fear shows.

You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face . . .  You must do the thing you think you cannot do.

My Primary Relationship is With Myself
My primary relationship is with myself- all others are mirrors of it. As I learn to love myself, I automatically recieve the love and appreciation that I desire from others. If I am commited to myself and to living my truth, I will attract others with equal commitment. My willingness to be intimate with my own deep feelings creates the space for intimacy with another.

As I learn to love myself, I recieve the love I desire from others.

"No.  I don't like people who speak or think in terms of gaining anybody's confidence.  If one's actions are honest, one does not need the predated confidence of others, only their rational perception.  The person who craves a moral blank check of that kind, has dishonest intentions, whether he admits it to himself or not."

"Believing in yourself never goes out of style."

I'm an all powerful amazon warrior, not just some sniveling girl.

WHERE DOES trust come from?

This is what every marketer wants to know. Without trust, marketers know that there are no sales. Trust means the prospect believes not only that the product being sold will actually solve his problems, but that if for some reason it doesn't, the company will make good on its reputation of performance.

We happily pay a premium to buy our jewelry from a fancy store instead of from a shady character on the street. Why? Because we trust the store to sell us the real deal, while the guy with the watches in a briefcase represents substantial risks.

Corporations pay consultants billions of dollars for their advice, when they could probably find similar advice down the street at the local community college. Why the premium? Because Bain and McKinsey and the like are trusted advisers. They've built enough of a track record, and enough confidence, that they can command substantial premium.

"One who has self-esteem esteems oneself because one knows the value of one's being as a singular yet universal expression of the highest value in the Kosmos-the Universal Self, also known as God, Kami, or Brahma, or by many other names." 

The kind of commitment I find among the best performers across virtually every field is a single-minded passion for what they do, an unwavering desire for excellence in the way they think and the way they work. Genuine confidence is what launches you out of bed in the morning, and through your day with a spring in your step.

In becoming forcibly and essentially aware of my mortality, and of what I wished and wanted for my life, however short it might be, priorities and omissions became strongly etched in a merciless light, and what I most regretted were my silences.  Of what had I ever been afraid?  To question or to speak as I believed could have meant pain, or death.  But we all hurt in so many different ways, all the time, and pain will either change or end.  Death, on the other hand, is the final silence.  And that might be coming quickly, now, without regard for whether I had ever spoken what needed to be said, or had only betrayed myself into small silences, while I planned someday to speak, or waited for someone else's words.  And I began to recognize a source of power within myself that comes from the knowledge that while it is most desirable not to be afraid, learning to put fear into perspective gave me great strength.