Most human interactions are confined to the exchange of words — the realm of thought. It is essential to bring some stillness, particularly into your close relationships.
No relationship can thrive without the sense of spaciousness that comes with stillness. Meditate or spend silent time in nature together. When going for a walk or sitting in the car or at home, become comfortable with being in stillness together. Stillness cannot and need not be created. Just be receptive to the stillness that is already there, but is usually obscured by mental noise.
If spacious stillness is missing, the relationship will be dominated by the mind and can easily be taken over by problems and conflict. If stillness is there, it can contain anything.
Some people say, “Oh no, if I take up a spiritual life I can’t live in the world.” What foolishness is this? Look right here. You can talk, you can move, you can function, yet this level of peace is there within you, deeply. It’s like an undercurrent of your being that will always be there. I am free to laugh and joke and dance and yell and argue and do anything I want. That undercurrent is always there. Nothing takes it away. Nothing in the world can take it away. This is the state. So the same way you can laugh and talk and listen to me but still hold on to this feeling, the same way you can be in the world.
Swami Sai Premananda
Source: Principles of Higher Living: The Western Experience Upon the Shores of Eastern Wisdom
We are luminous beings. We are perceivers. We are an awareness; we are not objects; we have no solidity. We are boundless. The world of objects and solidity is a way of making our passage on earth convenient. It is only a description that was created to help us. We, or rather our reason, forget that the description is only a description and thus we entrap the totality of ourselves in a vicious circle from which we rarely emerge in our lifetime.