When we honestly ask ourselves which persons in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate now knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares.
Good enough never is. You can't get to second base keeping one foot on first. Unless you're lead dog, the scenery never changes. Follow the crowd and you will never be followed by a crowd. You never get a second chance to make a good first impression. Keep your mind on the things you want and off the things you don't want. You will never be able to discover new oceans unless you have the courage to lose sight of the shore. Be not afraid of rowing slowly. Be afraid of standing still. There are people who make things happen, and there are those who watch things happen. And there are those who wonder what happened. You may be disappointed if you fail, but you are doomed if you don't try. An idea is a curious thing. It will not work unless you do. If you were to write down all the possible ways to motivate people to do better work, friendly praise would have to come near the head of your list. The true secret of giving advice is, after you have given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right.
If I were to give advice to young people, high-achieving young people for example, I'd have to say, don't neglect your family. Politics is important, sitting at the head table is glamorous. Traveling around the world, trying to do something for world peace was wonderful. But . . . Family and friends and faith are what are really matters in life. And I know that. I see it so clearly now.