A Quote by Robert Kegan

When we see that we are not made up by the other's experience, we then have the capacity not to take responsibility for what is now genuinely and for the first time not ours. And as a result, we can get just as close to the other's experience (even the other's experience of how dissapointing, enraging, or disapprovable we are!) without any need to react defensively to it or be guiltily compliant with it.

Robert Kegan

Source: In Over Our Heads : The Mental Demands of Modern Life, Pages: 127

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