Surrender is an essential aspect of the learning process in Tantra. There is however, a lot of confusion about what surrender means with submission, which is a passive attitude that implies giving up responsibility for one's behavior, wanting someone else to do things for you. The word surrender has significant roots, in which 'render' has the meaning to melt and 'sur' means super or highest. In other words, the true meaning of surrender is to melt into that which is higher than yourself. You give yourself voluntarily to the highest aspect of your potential so that you can begin to grow into it. True surrender is a conscious choice made from free will. It means opening your heart and trusting the person you are with.
Source: The Art of Sexual Ecstasy: The Path of Sacred Sexuality
Contributed by: Interiors For Healing