If you want to increase the amount of joy in your life, it has to begin with the way you love, treat and honor yourself. If you are reaching outside of yourself for people, things, food, drugs, alcohol or jobs to be your source of joy, you will be at the mercy of circumstance. Real power comes when you realize you can feel joy for no reason at all.
There are always things to complain about, but there are just as many things to appreciate and love. Being negative is so much easier than being positive, so you have to have discipline and practice.
Here is a great way to practice: brag and give compliments to yourself! Why? Studies show that we have 60,000 thoughts a day and that 87 percent of those are not only repeated but also negative. So unless we bring in some Sati and mindfulness and start shifting the habitual flow of negative thoughts to powerful, positive ones, we might lose out on knowing just how good we can feel.
Learn to brag about yourself
The next time others ask you what’s new, don’t settle on telling them you are fine. Tell them something that is really great about your life and yourself. This will not only help you keep your joy and appreciation alive, it will give others the opportunity to brag about their lives. Encourage them to tell you what great things they are experiencing.
Look in the mirror and compliment yourself
When you look in the mirror, tell yourself how great you are looking today. Find something to focus on that is worthy of a compliment. This may not be easy, but unless you make an effort, you will let that negative voice take charge. Every time you let the negative voice take charge, you are sacrificing your joy! Instead, sacrifice the negative voice so the joy can continue to grow!
Joy creates success
“Joy is your natural state. It makes you smarter, younger, more intuitive and healthier. It is the path to healing, enhances your immunity and changes your metabolism. Joy creates success, not the other way around,” says Dr. Christiane Northup in her book The Power of Joy.
Instead of sacrificing your natural joyful state, fuel it by bragging and giving compliments to yourself and others. It is a small but powerful way to find your way back to your natural state!
Exercise: “Yes, I am bragging. I am worth it.”
Practice the following affirmations and moves in front of the mirror:
- Say out loud: “Yes, I am bragging.” Go to the pose of COMMITMENT: Stand with legs more than shoulder width apart. Reach your right arm straight up over your head while slightly bending your right knee. Keep your left arm bent at your side. Both palms are facing forward. Now switch your arms, reaching your left arm straight up over your head while slightly bending your left knee. And now keep your right arm bent by your side. Both palms are facing forward. Alternate your arms right and left four times with the affirmation for one minute. You are committed to bringing joy into your life.
- Say out loud “I am worth it.” Go to the pose of PERSEVERANCE: Step on the left foot, keeping the right foot pointed to the side and extend your right arm in a fist high up to the sky. Now switch to the other side and repeat right and left for one minute. You are never giving up because you are worth it.
Now put the two moves together: “Yes, I am bragging. I am worth it” for three minutes, while looking in the mirror and smiling!
Memorize and repeat
Memorize the entire series below and then say it all day long:
Yes, I am bragging. I am worth it.
I am happy, and I deserve it.
I am committed to loving me.
When I honor myself, the world shifts around me.
I am brilliant. I am proud. I am sexy.
And I am allowed to use my power
To shine and to attract greatness.
I AM DIVINE!
When we honor ourselves, the world really does shifts around us. When you honor your brilliance, beauty and power, you feel good. How good are you willing to feel today? Spread the love by radiating it, being it, giving it and receiving it.
You are amazing! How do I know? We are all born that way, and now it is up to us to know it!