Dear Arielle and Brian,
I’ve made some important changes in my life, especially when it comes to manifesting a soulmate, and I’ve begun to have a positive and proactive attitude. I am noticing how many people in my life, particularly my mother, are having a real issue with my change. Perhaps she is jealous because she has been single for 16 years. Lately, she is very condescending towards me and seems very passive aggressive. Here’s my question: Is it normal when one changes for others have a real issue with it? Is it because they feel threatened? It seems like I never fully realized before the limited thinking, undeserving attitude and pessimism that surrounds me.
When we make big changes, it affects the people closest to us. It might be best not to share too much with your mother about what you are doing and how you are changing … just love her for who she is and continue to improve yourself.
Maybe at some point when she begins to observe how much happier you are she might decide to make a change as well.
For now, keep creating the space for your own growth and try not to judge your mother or your friends. Chances are they are not purposely trying to be this way — they are just reacting.
If the shoe were on the other foot, and someone close to you had made some changes — for better or worse — you might find yourself a little unsettled until you had the sense that this person still loved you. There is an adjustment period. It’s not unusual that the people that we love feel threatened.
Your positive changes are threatening to their worldview. It’s part of the price of making a change. Now that you’ve found a better way to live and a better worldview, have faith that eventually your mother and friends will see the merits and benefits and will join you. You are now holding the bar higher so just be patient and understanding with them.
Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,
Arielle and Brian
Arielle Ford has spent the past 25 years living and promoting consciousness through all forms of media. She is the author of the international bestselling book, THE SOULMATE SECRET: Manifest The Love of Your Life With The Law of Attraction. Her husband and soulmate Brian Hilliard is a business consultant with a life-long interest in spirituality and the practice of compassion. They live in La Jolla, CA. For more information, visit www.soulmatesecret.com and www.soulmatekit.com
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