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Is Online Dating My Only Option?

Posted By Arielle Ford On October 11, 2010 @ 12:37 pm In Personal Growth, Relationships | 5 Comments

Woman sitting at the computer with a cup of coffee [1]Hello Arielle & Brian,

I constantly have people telling me that I should pursue online dating [2]. I am not sure if this is a sign from the universe (or not) but I feel absolutely no inspiration whatsoever to do this. The idea just brings bad vibes. If you do not take the signs the universe provides, does it stop orchestrating ways of bringing you a soulmate [3]? I know the LOA (law of attraction) is always in play, but I am still concerned that since I am not acting on the universe’s sign (because there is no inspiration), it sends a negative message to the universe.

Also I briefly met a customer at my work who looked exactly like the type of guy I visualized, right down to the exact shirt and jeans. Unfortunately I was too focused on my work to pay much attention to him. I am planning to visualize seeing this particular man again, but I’m wondering if that will limit my chances of manifesting anyone else just in case he isn’t my intended soulmate. Please advise!



Hi Bonnie,

We don’t believe that you have to force yourself to do anything you don’t want to do in order to manifest your soulmate [4]. It sounds like online dating is NOT for you, so stop discussing it with other people and rehashing it with yourself.

Remember, the process of attracting your soulmate [5] is one of magnetism. When you make the choice to live as if your soulmate is already a part of your life, you send out an irresistible signal to the universe that you are ready now. Not a signal that you’ll be ready someday — when you work less and your house is clean [6] and you’ve lost five pounds [7]! Remember the famous line in the 1989 movie Field of Dreams starring Kevin Costner?  “If you build it, they will come.” Living “as if” is like flipping on a light switch inside your heart. This is the light your beloved will use to navigate his or her way to your door of love, care and appreciation.

If you stay focused on “knowing” that the one you asked for is ALREADY yours, and savor the waiting and love your life unconditionally, the right one will appear at the right time. If it happens to be the customer you described, how nice, but since you don’t even know anything about him except for his looks, we think you will block other potential possible soulmates by focusing on a stranger.

Wishing you love and laughter,

Arielle and Brian

E-mail your questions about life, love and relationships to Arielle and Brian at soulmatesecret@yahoo.com [8].

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[2] online dating: http://life.gaiam.com/gaiam/p/Online-Dating-Target-Your-Search-to-Make-a-Match.html

[3] soulmate: http://blog.gaiam.com/blog/using-the-law-of-attraction-to-manifest-soulful-love/

[4] manifest your soulmate: http://life.gaiam.com/gaiam/p/6-Steps-to-Finding-Your-Soulmate.html

[5] the process of attracting your soulmate: http://blog.gaiam.com/blog/can-everyone-attract-a-soulmate/

[6] your house is clean: http://www.gaiam.com/category/eco-home-outdoor/household/cleaners.do?SID=WG107SPRTAPEMACS

[7] lost five pounds: http://life.gaiam.com/gaiam/p/Weight-Loss-Guide-Answers-Solutions.html

[8] soulmatesecret@yahoo.com: mailto:soulmatesecret@yahoo.com

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