I’m Doing Everything You Said … So Where’s My Soulmate?

Arielle Ford by Arielle Ford | May 11th, 2009 | 2 Comments
topic: Personal Growth, Relationships


Dear Arielle and Brian,
My name is Maria and I’ve been raising my two daughters on my own, for 15 years, working very hard to provide the best that I could for them. Now that they are now both in college, I have decided to think a bit about myself, and who knows — maybe find my soulmate. I have read your book, made the treasure map, listened to the “feelingizations” every night before going to sleep, and I have even signed myself up on a dating website here in Melbourne, Australia. Nothing has happened at all! Am I too old?
Thank you,

Dearest Maria,

I think you just need to kickstart your love engine — and the key to that begins with as much love, laughter and tons of fun that you can muster! The two of us are giving you a standing ovation in our office right this minute as well as dancing on top of our desks to celebrate YOU! Please follow our lead and do a quick celebration dance (I’m serious) to honor your contribution to the world — raising two beautiful independent young adults and sharing your deepest love and wisdom to young souls who needed your guidance. Give yourself some time each day to dance, laugh, sing, or just go for a walk to reconnect with your spirit. Then go back to all those wonderful practices you outlined in your e-mail and do them with passion and fun.

Also consider ASKING for love — we know it’s one of the most difficult things for anyone to risk, but by risking it from your deepest heart, you open a door that will never close again. Remember to nurture and care for yourself in this process. Be patient and accepting of what unfolds with no real attachment to any expectations or results you might place on yourself.

We’ll continue to dance on the tabletops in your honor!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses.

Arielle & Brian

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  1. Sometimes the problem lies within ourselves. We tend to often block out things in our past or things we actually believe about ourselves which in reality are not true. Though untrue, our thoughts can have an incredible impact on our behavior and what we do and don’t attract.

    A great way to get to know yourself and see what thoughts you are thinking (whether they are positive or negative) is meditating. The act of meditation allows you to become more in tune with yourself. In that sense, you are enabled to see the thoughts that you think as you are thinking them and to control your mind instead of it controlling you and your emotions and behavior.

    You’ll see that meditating also makes you feel more compassionate for yourself and to others. This compassion reflects in your attitude and behavior and attracts good and positive people and potential mates in to your life.

    Sonia Gallagher | June 25th, 2009 | Comment Permalink
  2. We should attract a soulmate by not confining the Universe to our own ideas or points of view on how love should be and look like.
    A real soulmate will be delivered to you.

    Vincent | July 26th, 2010 | Comment Permalink

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