How to Share vs. Give

Cynthia James by Cynthia James | December 19th, 2008 | 1 Comment
topic: Personal Growth

We often confuse sharing with giving. Giving is connected to things and is often mixed up with our definition of what we “need.” It can appear in many forms, but often it is very much attached to our identity. But sharing is heart-centered and not attached to the material world.

The dictionary defines giving as, “to deliver in exchange or in recompense, or to put temporarily at the disposal of.”

By contrast, the definition of sharing is, “to participate in, use, or experience in common; to have or take a part; to be concerned or partake equally or jointly.”

When you’re in a space of giving, need is in the lead. It could be a need for acknowledgement, validation, love or acceptance. It could be a need to be liked or feel important. It does not matter what it is; we are trying to get. The mere act of needing is telling the Universe that something is missing. It is an act of stating lack — and when we do that, we attract more of what we are lacking.

If we look at the economic situation in our country today, many people are immobilized by fear, not realizing that fear begets fear. Whatever you give your attention will grow. Too many people today are in debt because they have been giving to get. They are afraid to let go of old ways of being and so they spend money that they do not have in order to feel loved.

Sharing, on the other hand, is about being open and contributing your heart and your gifts. To share takes material value out of the picture and focuses on loving. People instantly relax and take in the gift of you.

Try this tool to help you shift from giving to sharing this holiday season:

Ask yourself the following questions. It’s a powerful exercise to journal on each question.

  • Where am I giving to get?
  • How does it feel when I share from my heart?
  • What would I do if I knew I had enough money?

Once you complete the journaling, create an affirmation around each question that centers around sharing vs. giving. For example … “I am abundant in every area of my life. I lack nothing.” Or, “Today, I give myself permission to share from the heart, expecting nothing in return. Today, I know that I am enough!”

Say these affirmations daily for the entire holiday season. It will remind you the truth that wherever you are, you are enough.


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