Holidays are supposed to be a time when families unite, when you are reminded of your childhood or revisit the memories of yourself over the years. You may be spending this time alone or far from home. But no matter where you are or who you are with, the holidays provide you with a unique opportunity to heal the inner patterns and relationships that have been obstructing your life and hindering your dreams.
This high holiday energy allows us to easily connect to others and it can be expediently, powerfully and positively directed. As you become aware of your intuition and the links you share with one another in a tangible way, you also become aware of its power to change old connections. By revisiting your old relationships, you can change the persistent patterns that have had you running the same unsatisfying maze over and over again in your life.
How to move forward with your family
Take a moment to replay in your head the arguments you always have with your family. Now, resolve them in your head. Let those around you do all the old dances; find a place to go in yourself where you do not need to respond. Often, a full-body sense of what you are creating in your life helps. Intuition does not give up once you commit to change. Use breath as a tool to center yourself instead of reacting in destructive or self-destructive ways.
All change takes discipline. Try redirecting your attention when someone pushes your buttons. You may even be able to plant the seeds for a new relationship and a new family dynamic. Practice compassion so that you can send real warmth to those around you even if you have issues with them.
Even if you are alone, the holidays tend to bring up these familial patterns. Do the same exercises you would if you were with your family and reach out to someone as the person you have chosen to become now. It is good to find groups gathering in your area that allow you to connect your dreams to the dreams of others.
A public holiday is a time when you can send your goals out into the world. Scientific research has demonstrated that others perceive what you think and feel, even at a distance. Try it by sending a warm connection to someone you care about. Use your thoughts in a conscious, powerful and directed manner to create the changes you desire. When your thoughts wander to a hurtful place, refocus them on the dialogs you want to send to the people you want to send them to.
Holidays also represent time markers. You may think of where you were last Thanksgiving, the Thanksgiving before that and even 30 Thanksgivings before that! Yet in ways this does a disservice by undermining the power of accepting the moment as it is.
In 30 years of teaching, I have seen people turn their lives around in a moment. Really being someone you like attracts a life you like. Be active in engaging with your own miracle. You may be very pleased and surprised at what comes back your way.
Simple steps to take control of your holidays
Holidays are a powerful time to “run the experiment” of success. If you are ready to change, get started with these steps today. Using the field of energy that we share, I send you love and blessings as you reach for your dreams.
- Focus on what you want in your life, not on what you don’t want.
- Write down your goals. Document change. Review this every day. You will see how powerful you are at creating your own life and having an effect on the lives of those around you.
- Take one small action to forward each goal before the holidays begin.
- Use your positive memory files to create thoughts. Practice being in them when you need a boost.
- Commit to having positive conversations with people you want to meet. Refuse to rehash negative conversations from the past.
- Practice being the new you without being defensive when people treat you like the old you.
- Commit to tell at least one other person about your goals. Having a witness makes something sacred, powerful and real in your life.
New York Times best-selling author Laura Day has spent three decades helping individuals, organizations and companies use their innate intuitive abilities to create profound change in their lives. Her new book is How to Rule the World from Your Couch (Simon & Schuster).