Although this may seem an incredible concept, as far as I am concerned, so are diets. If diets and diet books worked, there would not be a multi-multibillion–dollar diet industry. You can and will experience how you can address your body in a new and effective way. If weight is an issue for you, it is a symptom of how you want to change your life. By changing your weight you will change your life.
Intuition is an amazing tool for weight loss because it guides you to the right choices for you, as a unique individual, as well as addressing the physical and psychological reasons that you, as an individual, are blocking yourself from having the body you want. Many of these reasons were helpful to you once, but now, just by choosing to read this, you are clear that they are no longer helping you. You are ready for change.
When you look at any human body, even identical twins, you find that no two bodies are the same. No two people are the same. Intuition will guide you to find what you need, specifically, accurately, and effectively for your own unique shape. It will also guide you to the resources that are right for you. You will guide yourself to good choices. You will be making deep, inner changes in yourself that will guide you to success. I know that many of you have really suffered from effort after effort, sacrifice after sacrifice, only to find yourself failing to live in the body that you want.
Reclaim yourself; the weight loss will follow
Part of what you need to purge right now is the suffering, the shame, the self-loathing that failure brings. You tried. This is in itself a courageous act. Change, any change, is seen as a threat by all mammals. It requires new skills and a letting go of something that defines us and has helped us survive in the past. It is like a little death. Honor yourself for your effort toward change as you embark on real, sustainable change. The most valuable result of doing this program will not be weight loss — that will be just a side effect of the other changes you will be making. The treasure is the power, joy, and effectiveness you will gain in reclaiming yourself and the ability to create your own life and your own destiny. I have never known anyone who, when they really found the core of their being, did not fall madly, passionately in love with themselves.
I am going to get the diet recommendations over with, right here and now. The simple truth is that when you ingest fewer calories than you expend, you lose weight. When you ingest more calories than you expend, you gain weight. Period. Many underlying conditions such as depression or anxiety can have an effect on your energy level, and as a result your weight. You may find yourself guided to have these conditions treated by a doctor. Of course, genetics play a part in how we gain or lose weight; however, you may find that by changing the way you use your energy, you change the way your brain works. I know many formerly obese people from obese families who have addressed their genetic tendencies in a way that yielded excellent results. You are the only powerful force of change in your life. You can change now.
On New Year’s Day, many of us set ourselves up for failure. We decide to change things that we have failed to change in the past, all at once. Of course we just doom ourselves to more failure. Willpower only works when we can uncover and free our will. We will be doing this together, and in freeing your will you will free yourself from so many things you no longer need to carry around, one of them being excess weight. But I am sure that there are many more important and exciting things that will come to you in the process.
Remember that fat is stored energy, so transform it into useful energy. It is trying to protect you. It knows how you will protect yourself when it is gone. Let it know what you are going to use the energy for.
The do-over: Healing the heart and soul
In your mind’s eye allow yourself to wander back to a younger you who needed all that you are right now to make yourself safe. Find a single scene. Place yourself with that child who was you and comfort her, tell her what she needs to know, try to make friends with her, to acquire her trust. Feel your love for her. If this is difficult for you, work to find what you could love about her, and let it grow. Every day do another scene. Only do this once, at most twice a day. As you heal the you of the past, you will also heal your present. The only rule is that you cannot change the past, only your response to it — what you did, felt, believed, said and knew. You can bring your child home with you for a bit. You can tuck her into your life now. If you let her down by not fulfilling some of her dreams, you can work together to come up with a plan to make those dreams happen today. You are the best of allies.
Allow your awareness to move to a part of your body and follow it. Where did it go? What did you find there? What memories, abilities, and awareness are now clear and accessible for you to work with? Sometimes, the awareness alone is enough to begin the process of healing.
From How to Rule the World from Your Couch by Laura Day, Copyright 2010 by Laura Day, Reprinted by permission of Atria Books, a Division of Simon & Schuster, Inc.