How to Cope If Your Soulmate Leaves You

Arielle Ford by Arielle Ford | March 8th, 2010 | 1 Comment
topic: Personal Growth, Relationships

Dear Arielle & Brian,

Two years ago, the love of my life left me. We are gay, but she told me she didn’t want to be gay anymore and was on a religious tangent. Six months later, she was in a relationship with another woman.

Our passionate connection was indescribable. Our intense magnetic bond was not only physical but emotional and spiritual. However, she left me, so I obviously wasn’t “the one” for her anymore.

She always said we had a “special” relationship, and I honestly feel she still loves me and will return to me someday. I guess you could say I’m obsessed with her. We’ve had no contact, and I don’t know whether to keep my love for her alive in my heart (as I have for the past two years) or let her go and manifest a new soulmate.

Thank you for your help.


Dear Susannah,

Here’s the question to ask yourself: Do I want to spend my life with someone who loves, cherishes and adores me? And if so, by when? If you answered yes, and soon, then it’s time to let her go and open yourself to new love. Otherwise, you can wait and remain in this state of obsession (your words not ours) and hope she comes back. But, even if she comes back, is this the relationship of your dreams? Or, to be honest, is it even healthy?

In the book The Path to Love, Deepak Chopra beautifully outlines the spiritual meaning of love and how it is best measured: “Love can heal, renew, make us safe, inspire us, and bring us closer to God.”

Susannah, if you were completely honest with yourself, is your current situation invoking these feelings of love? We all have many potential soulmates. (Let’s remember there are 6.5 billion people on the planet, and right now you only need one.) So you get to choose who to devote your time, energy and life to with the prize ultimately being a soulmate to experience the type of love Deepak so eloquently describes. Isn’t this what your heart is really calling for?

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle & Brian

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  1. What a great answer. Having been there myself (as I’m sure we all have been at one stage) perspective is the hardest thing to attain. Most often, distance from the situation is achieved with passing time. This viewpoint allows you to look for ’solutions’ to the problem… Finding a fresh love – to uplift and inspire would certainly stop those thoughts of longing. All the best with your next steps, Nigel.

    Nigel Coates | March 10th, 2010 | Comment Permalink

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