How to Attract the Right Kind of Relationship

Arielle Ford by Arielle Ford | June 18th, 2009 | 4 Comments
topic: Personal Growth, Relationships

happy couple

Dear Arielle & Brian,

I have been working on manifesting my soulmate. With each person I come in touch with, I become more clear as to what I am desiring from the core of my heart, but still, I am unable to manifest the kind of person I am looking for.  I have joined two online dating services and have gone on several dates, but it doesn’t seem to be working. It seems that ultimately the men I meet online are not emotionally available.

Am I expecting too much?? Will I ever find anyone with whom I can connect and profoundly surrender? I have taken a break from searching, but these questions haunt me. Can you please guide me with your insight?


Dear Neely,

We suggest you focus more on “magnetizing” your soulmate to you rather than actively “looking out there” for that person. Words and feelings are important — searching can sometimes come from a place of desperation instead of the natural flow of love. When we are meeting unavailable men it is a reflection of our own unavailability. We would suggest that you consider doing some deeper work to see where your heart is possibly still wounded, defensive or untrusting. There are many good forms of therapy and release techniques in the world.

Take it as a good sign that you know how to manifest (men are showing up) — but that there is still more work to do on your end. Remember, ultimately there is nothing for you to do, but there is something and someone for you to become. Become the loving, giving magnet for love that you are at your core. Discover true happiness within you and the life you have right now. Give love to those already in your life.

Practice surrendering to the universe and to all that IS. When the time is right, love will find you.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle and Brian

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  1. What great advice, and so well explained! It gave me clarity on my own situation and its greatly appreciated.

    Merin | June 24th, 2009 | Comment Permalink
  2. Thanks! For more good advice please check out my book The Soulmate Secret: Manifest the Love of Your Life with the Law of Attraction.

    Arielle | June 24th, 2009 | Comment Permalink
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