I am 46 years old and unmarried. Last summer, I connected with someone online and we both felt we were soulmates, brought together by divine intervention. Two months later he decided to fly 5,000 miles to come meet me, with an understanding that the meeting was just to see each other at least once and get comfortable.
Upon our meeting, the guy felt there was no chemistry. Because we had so much in common, I was willing to give it a try, but he wasn’t, although he did want to keep in touch and remain friends, which I said no to.
Arielle and Brian, why does this happen? Is it right to give up so much in common for chemistry? Was this guy not really my soulmate? I am confused.
Thank you so much.
Committing to and sharing your life with a soulmate is a desire worth committing time and energy to. We want to strongly encourage you to not give up just because this one didn’t work out.
While it may seem like having many things “in common” with someone sounds like the formula for a fantastic relationship, it’s just part of the equation. We aren’t meant to spend our lives with someone who is simply the opposite-sex version of ourselves. Differences and diversity add spice and magic to a long-term relationship.
All great relationships need a combination of chemistry, compatibility, connection, communication and a shared vision for the future. We understand your disappointment that this didn’t work out, but please know that while you felt a possible “soulmate connection,” without chemistry you would have been cheating yourself of experiencing the breadth and depth of Big Love.
Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,
Arielle and Brian
Arielle Ford has spent the past 25 years living and promoting consciousness through all forms of media. She is the author of the international bestselling book, THE SOULMATE SECRET: Manifest The Love of Your Life With The Law of Attraction. Her husband and soulmate Brian Hilliard is a business consultant with a life-long interest in spirituality and the practice of compassion. They live in La Jolla, CA. For more information, visit soulmatesecret.com and soulmatekit.com.
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