Can I Find True Love if I Still Love My Ex?

Arielle Ford by Arielle Ford | June 16th, 2011 | 3 Comments
topic: Personal Growth, Relationships

Older couple hugging

Dear Arielle and Brian,

Nearly 35 years ago my husband walked out on me and our two small children. I was devastated, as I believed he was my soulmate — my one and only. I never remarried because I could never stop loving him and hoping that we would someday reunite (even though he remarried and currently is with wife #3).

Now, as I near my retirement, I am suddenly aware of how little time I have left on the planet and I want to finally let go of the past and find new love. Is it too late for me?

Love,

Paula

Dear Paula,

We have great news for you! It is not too late for you to experience unimaginable, legendary love and manifest a soulmate who will appreciate and adore you.

We know of many men and women who had found love in their later years. Here’s the first step: Understand that it’s okay to love your ex-husband. In fact, it’s probably impossible to stop loving the ones we’ve loved and cared for. However, you need to finally accept that he is long gone, not coming back, and it’s time to forgive him and let go. See if you can find a little corner of your heart in which to place your love for him and when you catch yourself thinking about him, remember to put him back into that little place and focus on the heart traits and delicious qualities of your soon-to-be-met soulmate. Whatever destiny or karma you once had with your ex-husband is now complete, so give yourself the gift of moving on to something that serves you and the greater good.

Now, ask yourself this: what are the traits and qualities my heart most desires in a soulmate?

Becoming laser-clear about who this person is, what they’re like, and most importantly, what you will feel like when you’re with them, is essential to your success in manifesting your soulmate.

Once you figure this out, and actually integrate this into the core of your being, you will be well on your way to new love.

Don’t spend a minute wishing you had done any of this sooner — if you could have, you would have. Remember to leave room for divine timing and also be grateful that you are now open and available for the love you’ve always desired.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle and Brian


Arielle Ford, author of The Soulmate Secret: Manifest the Love of Your Life with The Law of Attraction and her husband Brian Hilliard, a business consultant, answer your questions about life, love and relationships. They believe that whether you are eighteen or eighty years old, finding Big Love is always possible. Email your questions to: soulmatesecret@yahoo.com.

Disclaimer: Arielle Ford, Brian Hilliard, the Big Love column and its publishers assume no responsibility for any consequence relating directly or indirectly to any action or inaction you take based on the information, services or other material related to this column.

Comments

  1. Thank you for this post, I am 4 years out of a relationship that was as close to perfect as I ever expected for my life. I have found myself dealing with the ashes of my relationship and finally after a couple years have moved to a new life. I have worked very hard on not looking back and having that interfere with the future that I wish to create for myself. But I have not been able to “stop” loving my ex. I really have struggled to find a open unfilled fertile ground for finding love elsewhere. In the past I would have simply never seen her again and freed myself of constant reminders, but we have a child together and its not an option.
    I have discovered that I simply have had to make both physical and digital space and am moving forward. I’ve not found love yet, but I am starting to feel more positive emotions with the women I date. That is much better then the the past where my heart was dead and simply wouldn’t respond at all.

    ajay | June 20th, 2011 | Comment Permalink
  2. Hello, I just got out of a relationship its never easy to hear we are through or let’s break up. Right now I’m heartbroken and really upset but sometimes you just have to admit that it is over and go on with your life. Now that’s very hard at the beginning of a break up – I should know I’m barely keeping sane – but after a while you feel better and it doesn’t hurt as much but just deal with it. I’m having difficulty listening to myself but it takes a while for your heart and mind to heal. It’s not healthy staying in a room not talking to anyone and hiding it. Get to a room and let your emotion out then live your life like your supposed to live it. Just to say thank you.

    cyndy | December 14th, 2012 | Comment Permalink
  3. Thank you for this post, I am 4 years out of a relationship that was as close to perfect as I ever expected for my life. I have found myself dealing with the ashes of my relationship and finally after a couple years have moved to a new life. I have worked very hard on not looking back and having that interfere with the future that I wish to create for myself. But I have not been able to “stop” loving my ex. I really have struggled to find a open unfilled fertile ground for finding love elsewhere. In the past I would have simply never seen her again and freed myself of constant reminders, but we have a child together and its not an option.

    LILIEYS | January 9th, 2013 | Comment Permalink

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