decision-making

Dear Arielle & Brian:

I left my marriage of 17 years almost five years ago. Something I never thought I’d do, but I felt stifled and couldn’t grow in the direction that my soul was calling me to. It was a very difficult breakup that estranged me from my children for quite a while. With a lot of patience and love we reconnected again, but it was an extremely challenging time for all of us. And needless to say, there was a lot of heartbreak.

My first job as a freelancer was a project from hell. My boss was a complete control freak. Everything I wrote he re-wrote 6 times. He insisted I go to client meetings in the next state, and then never shut up long enough for me to speak. He dallied on making decisions so long I had to work several weekends in a row to meet my deadlines. The kicker is, I knew when I was applying for the job that this guy was trouble. I had an undeniable pit in my stomach after the interview. When we were negotiating payment, I couldn’t sleep. But I listened to the voice that said “How will you pay your bills if you turn this down?” instead of the voice that said, “Run!”