Big Love: Secrets from Two Soulmates

Dear Arielle & Brian,

I have been married for 10 years. Three years ago I began a serious spiritual path to discovering the awesome abundance of possibilities in the spiritual world. I have asked my husband to join me on this journey. I have told him that I love him and I long for more romance and spontaneity. His response was very negative and he says I am forcing him into something he is not comfortable with. He surfs, windsurfs and plays guitar and he says that this is way of connecting to Spirit. Do you think a marriage can survive if one partner embraces the spiritual journey and the other does not?
With love,
Ursula

Dear Ursula,

We can feel your pain. So many couples face similar challenges. First we want to ask you to do your best to honor your husband’s spiritual path of surfing, windsurfing and playing guitar. Connecting to Mother Nature and all its beauty is a powerful and direct path to God (or whatever you wish to call it). Remember, we are all riding different vehicles but hopefully arriving at the same destination. If you honor his path with devotion and respect then it will be easier for him to come around to your request for abundant intimacy and playful spontaneity (remember to make it fun and creative as well).

As you know, we come into a marriage with different histories, wounds and tools to navigate this wonderful thing we call sacred union. The path is a daily opportunity to practice love, compassion, gratitude and fierce grace. Our sense is that the deeper issue for you is not so much one of shared spiritual path (because as mentioned above you both seem open to spirit in your own ways), but it may be some other deeper personal blocks that you may want to explore, as a couple, with a therapist or counselor.

Sending you prayers for deep healing,

Arielle & Brian

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Dear Arielle & Brian,

Since I read The Soulmate Secret, did the exercises to heal my past relationships, and cut the energetic cords to past lovers, four of my old boyfriends and my former husband have called wanting to reconnect with me. What’s up with that?
Thanks for your help,
Cindy

Dear Cindy,

Congratulations! The inner healing you are doing is working and the energetic dynamic is shifting. The art and majesty of your rituals and powerful intentions are literally transmuting the energetic density that was weighing down the possibility of unconditional sacred love and abundance in your previous relationships. These men are now actually feeling different about themselves as well as feeling something new and different about their earlier experience with you.

This doesn’t mean that you are totally free to re-engage in these relationships (unless you carefully come to the realization that one of them is your soulmate) but it does mean that you are freed up to lovingly and seriously discern, from your deepest heart, so as to gain greater clarity on the issues that previously impacted these relationships. As you continue to do the inner and outer work for manifesting a soulmate the opportunities for more and more healing will spontaneously arise. Enjoy the process!

Arielle & Brian

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