Best Way to Stop Infidelity
by Gay and Katie Hendricks | January 18th, 2008 | Comments (1)
topic: Relationships | tags: infidelity, integrity, jealousy and trust
One thing we keep an eye out for is what kind of relationship advice is being dispensed subliminally through sit-coms, dramas, even the news shows. So when a morning show host began an interview with an expert on infidelity the other day, I watched out of the corner of my eye.
The expert began dispensing what, in my opinion, was some of the worst advice I’d ever heard. The expert was saying things like, “While your husband is in the shower, go through his email and cell phone records to look for possible infidelity.”
But at the end of the interview, the host made a remark so refreshingly useful that it stopped me in my tracks. He said: “The best way to stop infidelity is just to focus on your own integrity. If you do the right thing, you won’t have to worry about what anybody else does.”
I had learned the same lesson from working with hundreds of people wrestling with this issue in therapy over the years (watch our video for advice on surviving an affair). But it was very refreshing to have this advice being dispensed through a TV show.
Happiness,
Gay Hendricks
P.S. What messages about relationships do you see being dispensed through the media? Keep on the lookout, and post a comment here if you see something that fascinates you.
A few weeks ago, I watched a video on CNN.com about celebrity wives who had been cheated on. The tone (and in fact, actual script) of the video was “If these beautiful, successful women can’t keep their men at home, then what chance do ordinary women have?”. Firstly it implied that they were somehow to blame for their husband’s affair, but more so it implied that if one is just beautiful and successful enough, it can’t happen to you! I was quite shocked by the ignorant and naive message that is being sent out to so many viewers!